COUNSELLING LOW FELL
Picking The Right Counsellor Low Fell
Counselling is a personal experience.
Your counsellor is privy to aspects of your life, that no-one else is, not even family.
Professionals are used to dealing with life's personal details, but you may not be so used to opening up in this way. A good choice of counsellor can help you see a new perspective on life, and money well spent.
Finding The Right Counsellor
The following elements should be present, between you and your counsellor, for best results:
- Safety - If we don't have an underlying sense of safety in therapy, from the outset, it's unlikely progress will be made.
- Permission - The therapy room should be a safe space where you have permission to express your feelings in a safe and protected environment. The right counsellor will help pace the feelings and experiences you're describing, while allowing you to express all the associated feelings, untethered.
- Partnership - Working together with your counsellor should feel like a partnership. New ways to look at old events, often come from the therapist to the client. Equally, the counsellor depends on you to be as honest and open as possible, or they have nothing to work with, and little progress can be made. A two-way understanding is needed, to enable the change you want, to actually happen.
- Equality - Mutual understanding and appreciation is required throughout your counselling session and should underline all your work in the therapy room. e.g. Achieving results too quickly can actually be a bad thing!...if it causes too much discomfort. Be willing to change pace to match your counsellor, within reason. Also bear in mind, that no matter how emotionally painful something may feel in the short term, it's important to trust that the counsellor is leading you towards a comfortable resolution. Small wins can be the catalyst encouraging longer term gains, as the counselling relationship continues.
- Interested & Attentful - Professional therapists learn extensively on the art and benefits of listening closely during counselling sessions. Understanding non-verbal communication during a session is often just as important for a counsellor, as words spoken aloud. Likewise, as the client, you need to willing to listen to the context or perspective the therapist is attempting to help you see, even if emotions are high, and focus is difficult. We often respond to questions with our usual answers, that we routinely give in our normal environment. Interesting results can be achieved by listening intently to the therapist's question, as though it's the first time you'd heard it.
- Empathy - Everyone, with no exceptions, needs validation in the human experience. Does your counsellor bring the human elements to therapy? Empathy, validation, and understanding are the only starting point that allow better interpretations of old events, to flourish.
- Hope - We know we need to be more upbeat, eager, and cheerful about events. But that's usually in short supply, when counselling sessions begin. Many of us try to change everything on the outside first, before finally realising the problem is actually inside, not outside. Therapy work takes time, and is not a quick fix, nor a one size fits all solution. An experienced counsellor can use the minor gains made during initial sessions, to help build your confidence that bigger gains are likely, later in the process. Optimism about the future, and about what's possible, are important in life, regardless of whether you've felt the need for counselling help or not. But rather than holding out all hope for fantastic gains of huge magnitude, take faith and joy in the small steps during your counselling journey too, because they point you to other realisations you wouldn't otherwise have made.
- Trust - The inner child, in all of us, seeks to protect us above all else. If the environment is not supportive of vulnerable issues surfacing, they will not be allowed to do so. In counselling, most of us reveal aspects of ourselves and our feelings, we don't reveal to anyone else, even family or loved ones. Working with a counsellor as a neutral observer, can help us access deeper hurts that are ready to heal, as compared to attempting to work with someone we know, or even, on our own. We need to trust the counsellor not only with the hurt involved in a particular event we're working on, but also to navigate the counselling and healing journey as a whole. However, the therapist will not always be accommodating, like a friend. If you're to get progress from therapy, you'll need new perspective on the meanings you've given to previous issues. The therapist will challenge your opinions, to help you arrive at better perspectives. Our instinct, when we feel attacked in this way, is to retaliate - but be assured that these challenges are well intentioned, and are there for the purpose of helping you heal. A professional with more specialism in your particular area of concern may help here.
- Perspective - A key reason people attend therapy is they feel - stuck - with a particular circumstance or set of feelings. A counsellor can help you identify practical actions that may help - but more importantly - highlight new perspectives that help you feel better, too. There is a difference between challenging productively, and challenging needlessly. A good counsellor knows when one particular belief is causing problems in other areas, and needs to be challenged, and when another belief is secondary, and can be left alone. The difference is priceless, in the emotional peace a client experiences, over time.
Depression Counselling In Low Fell
Ironically, depression itself can stop us getting help for depression - making it one of the most debilitating mental health challenges we face.
Counselling can help identify and deal with the underlying issues and thinking patterns - your counsellor should help you recognise contributing issues and maintaining factors.
Other mental health options beyond counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy have also proven effective for depression and are widely used in the NHS.
Our main page for depression has more information.
To check on costs and booking options for counselling in Low Fell, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Anxiety Counselling Low Fell
The root of anxiety is often based in our learned associations - a repeated experience of negative reinforcement with something specific, can become a more generalised problem later in life, without realising.
Techniques used by counsellors may help reduce the serverity of the anxiety reaction you're used to, as well as help you understand how the pattern of anxiety has developed.
One off events in the past can also be the cause of more acute episodes of anxiety, such as panic attacks.
Deconditioning work can be undertaken with a therapist's help, to help untangle the meanings attached to an original event, and thus feel better about it - and less anxious.
Anxiety can be tackled with a variety of approaches in the counselling room, including EMDR, working on the original trauma, or deconditioning the associated experience.
Your counsellor is best placed to guide you through the best options for you, that will provides the greatest relief over time.
Get the full info on counselling for anxiety here.
Relationship Counselling Low Fell
All relationships go through turbulence, no matter who we are. In fact, relationships with those closest to us, like family, are often the most difficult. The differing interests, beliefs, values, and even generational differences, can unwittingly create tension that is difficult to explain or comprehend fully, without assistance.
Relationships with your significant other can be particularly challenging as their upbringing will consistently conflict with your own, in most cases.
Refreshing your ability to relate to each other, in a healthy way, where understanding is clear and meaning is retained, can make real differences for both individuals.
Understanding and anticipating what your partner wants and expects from the relationship, needs daily work, and most couples are not clear on this.
Sometimes a therapist can assist this understanding by helping you see how current patterns, relate to the past, and the previous episodes in life that each partner brings to the relationship.
Paying for counselling means getting focussed and attentive help targeting the most personal and life-changing issues humans go through.
Get more info on our main page for relationship and marriage counselling, here.
If you want to get started with counselling for your relationship, get in touch by calling 0191 580 3700, or drop us an email at info ((at)) truthcounsellingnewcastle.co.uk.
Bereavement Counselling Low Fell
We usually associate bereavement with the passing of a loved one, or a pet. But we all experience loss differently, and to differing degrees, depending on what the loss relates to. A sudden change of routine (as many experienced recently with covid), a friend moving away, or a fall-out between family members, can all result in significant grief, that many would dismiss as irrelevant or meaningless.
Many find it difficult to even begin grieving, and feel stuck in a state of dissociation. Others become caught in a prolonged state of grieving, unable to continue functional life without feeling the deep emotions of loss acutely during everyday life.
Whether you've been suffering over a long term period with chronic grief issues, or lost something or someone only recently, bereavement counselling can help you identify the difference between appropriate grieving and unhealthy levels of grief, as well as practical coping mechanism and supports to use.
Full info on grief counselling is available here.
For bereavement counselling costs and availability, call us on 0191 580 3700.
Anger results from a sense of values being broken, or boundaries being impeded upon.
Excessive anger often results from an excess of internal "rules" or beliefs, making it easy for them to be broken, and it therefore becomes easy to trigger a state of anger.
Periodic angry episodes happen to us all, but more frequent or uncontrollable anger is more likely to require intervention and therapeutic help.
Therapy for anger is quite different - and focuses instead on detective work around past events in life, family life, relationship issues, etc, as a means to get to the root of the anger habit.
While practical tools and in-the-moment techniques are enough for many, it may benefit those looking for a longer term solution to focus on counselling instead of anger management.
See our main page on anger counselling.
Private anger therapy is now available to book. To book sessions, call direct on 0191 580 3700.
Often we are unaware of the impact an emotional trauma has, until much later.
Any event in life that is outside the range of our norms in life - what we believe, what we value, etc, can result in trauma.
Breaking these norms of experience can result in trauma - and feelings of isolation, loss of appetite, lack of socialising, dissociation and lack of interest in life.
A traumatic event can be a big, one-off, sudden, shock.
However trauma can also be much smaller, repeated episodes of emotional distress which, while no individual episode could be considered hugely traumatic, cumulatively add up over time, to aggregated emotional distress and difficulty.
Trauma counselling can help with both short term, one-off, obvious traumatic experiences, as well as longer term issues accrued over time.
We understand that seeking a counsellor for this type of work can be unnerving, and it can be especially important to find a counsellor who meets your needs and is sympathetic.
Our main page on trauma counselling has more info.
To ask about pricing and availability for trauma counselling, ring us direct at a convenient time, on 0191 580 3700.
Addiction Counselling Low Fell
It's easy to become addicted to something in the course of day-to-day life, without noticing it happening consciously.
Sometimes, when going through exceptional stress, we adopt a certain way to cope, as a one-off means to feel better.
It's surprisingly easy to continue using this one coping mechanism in this way, and thus end up using it as the *only* coping mechanism, whenever stress arises.
With too much substance or behaviour abuse comes rationalisation - the belief that the level of stress we're dealing with is now normal - when in fact it is not.
Counselling can assist also in cases of non-substance related addiction, such as obsessive cleaning, or collecting things.
Counselling can help you overcome addiction by first understanding the benefit you get, from the substance or behaviour itself. It can also assist you in developing practical means to cope with the addiction in the short term, while longer term work on the underlying causes continues.
If you're thinking of addiction counselling, get your questions answered on 0191 580 3700.
Beginning The Counselling Journey
Initially it's a good idea to agree upon the practical elements early on, like how often you'll meet, where, costs involved, and how long you both expect sessions to continue.
Private counselling costs can vary wildly, so do check beforehand about specifics. It's common for initial sessions to be a reduced rate, or sometimes, free. Sometimes the first session is allocated a standard rate.
Have an open and frank discussion with your counsellor at the beginning, so that you see eye to eye on what will happen next. Setting clear expectations like this from the ouset leaves you free to focus on the real work of counselling.
Top Questions To Ask
Asking specific questions before beginning work with a counsellor can help avoid wasted time and money.
What action do we take if I don't get any benefit from counselling?
- Make sure you stay connected with your therapist, and share the same expectations about the practical elements, throughout. As well as keeping things moving, this helps the therapist look after you best.
How long will this take?
- Bear in mind here that this is a very difficult question to answer, with no one solution, as it has so many (very personal) variables and dependencies built in - that are dependent on, for example:
- What comes up during therapy, that needs to be dealt with, that wasn't anticipated beforehand.
- Many more events than anticipated, are contributing toward a current day pattern, and all need resolution before the pattern dissolves or the client feels better.
- Differing rates at which different individuals are able to make sense of, and re-process, events. There is no one fixed "speed" of emotional healing, and to expect this would be unreasonable.
It is for all the above reasons, that no therapist, can provide a concrete answer to this question - only what their intuition tells them.
Remember, part of the counsellor's job Is to help you open up painful memories or feelings and re-process them, A brief time frame for treatment may make a therapist more reluctant to explore very deep issues, since there may not be enough time to complete them satisfactorily, without leaving the client in a vulnerable place. Looking at these more difficult events can take a longer time period. Avoid confusion or disagreement around the progress of counselling sessions, by keeping clear communication channels open throughout. This will minimise risk of sessions ending abruptly, with issues undealt with.
Do you have specific expertise in any one area?
- Some counsellors have historical experience or specialist qualifications in particular areas of therapy, such as trauma or PTSD, anxiety, depression, etc. It's always good to understand the background of your potential therapist, and how that matches your experience, before beginning counselling.
What is your availability?
- Counsellors often work across multiple clinics and locations on different days of the week - check if your diaries sync up at the right times.
Counsellors Available In Low Fell
Truth Counselling's counsellors work independently. Since they travel independently too, our therapists can often arrange local sessions in Low Fell, by arrangement.
How To Book Counselling Sessions
To check on availability, costs of counselling in Low Fell, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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