Selecting The Best Therapist Backworth
It's easy to feel vulnerable or raw when starting out on counselling sessions.
Your counsellor is privy to aspects of your life, that no-one else is, not even family.
Professionals are used to dealing with life's personal details, but you may not be so used to opening up in this way. Making sure you've picked the right counsellor can mean the difference between a few short sessions with an unsuccessful outcome; and lasting positive change in your life.
Finding The Right Therapist/Talk Therapist
Finding the right counsellor means developing a therapeutic association which is based on:
- Safe - The counsellor's room should feel like a sanctuary, sheltered from the external world, or it's concerns, so that we feel secure enough to speak about our worries.
- Acceptance - Without the confidence that whatever we say, whatever interpretation we've given of a certain event, will be accepted, it can be hard to reveal much of our feelings, in order to get over them. The right counsellor will help pace the feelings and experiences you're describing, while allowing you to express all the associated feelings, untethered.
- Collaboration - A strong therapeutic relationship is very much a team-oriented endeavour. Clients need the counsellor to lead the session, set a safe space, and assist with new perspectives needed. But the professional also has a need - for the client to be brutally honest and forthright. If not, the changes achieved may be short term. A mutually supportive, collaborative environment can help you get the change you want quickly, with the minimum of discomfort.
- Mutual respect - You & your counsellor require a sense of two-way understanding between you, and a respect for each other, in every element of the counselling relationship. e.g. Achieving results too quickly can actually be a bad thing!...if it causes too much discomfort. Be willing to change pace to match your counsellor, within reason. Be assured that the counsellor is guiding you towards a resolution on even the most emotional of issues. Take motivation from the small wins during initial sessions, as these can fuel you for later working through deeper issues.
- Interested & Attentful - Professional therapists learn extensively on the art and benefits of listening closely during counselling sessions. Understanding non-verbal communication during a session is often just as important for a counsellor, as words spoken aloud. Ensure you are willing to listen to the counsellor when they do talk - as they could be attempting to help you give a more forgiving meaning, to a troublesome event, and thus ease your pain. We all have our stock responses for certain questions, that have become our usual responses, over the years. The counsellor will expect you to do a little active listening of your own, and to be intuitively truthful, in your responses. Your first response, from instinct, is often the right one, in these cases.
- Compassion - We all have an intuitive need to connect with others, and have our experiences and interpretations acknowledged as being real, and acceptable. An empathetic therapist hears and understands your issues, but also has the insight to guide you toward an even more helpful perspective.
- Enthusiasm - Unfortunately, a lack of energy and optimism are often what's brought us to counselling in the first place. A lot of folks find themselves at counselling sessions as a lst resort - they've tried everything they can think of, already. Therapy work takes time, and is not a quick fix, nor a one size fits all solution. We need to trust that a positive outcome will happen, and a counsellor needs to be adept at illustrating how good things can be in the future, and help you see how that's possible, even though it won't happen overnight. Being hopeful about the future is important, no matter how negative our current circumstances may seem. What experience does your counsellor have with your issue specifically? How have they helped others, like you, in the past? Use these questions to decide if this counsellor's experience matches your expectations.
- Trust - Knowing that, when we do put forth our concerns, we can trust a counsellor to assist in the most appropriate way, no matter how deep our emotions or feelings, can allow even the deepest wounds to heal. No matter how reasonable our feelings may be to an outsider, we almost always feel some element of shame, guilt, or similar, about the fact that we have these feelings at all. Working with a counsellor as a neutral observer, can help us access deeper hurts that are ready to heal, as compared to attempting to work with someone we know, or even, on our own. An experienced therapist is equally skilled at navigating both the bigger picture of where the therapy is going, but also the smaller picture of where you're at now. Expect a counsellor to challenge you - that's their job. Part of their role is to help you question the meanings you have assigned to certain events - in order to help you feel better about them. Our instinct, when we feel attacked in this way, is to retaliate - but be assured that these challenges are well intentioned, and are there for the purpose of helping you heal. Looking for a counsellor with more long term experience can help.
- Perception - The counsellor has the acumen, vision, and understanding to help you identify and remedy, areas where a better perspective on the event(s), may help. There is a difference between challenging productively, and challenging needlessly. A good counsellor knows when one particular belief is causing problems in other areas, and needs to be challenged, and when another belief is secondary, and can be left alone. Your long term mental health can make great gains, where these fine distinctions are clearly recognised.
There are not many ailments which themselves, make it difficult for us to get professional help to remedy them - but depression is one of them.
Depression can be the result of both unuseful thinking patterns and an ongoing state of helplessness or hopelessness. Counselling can help with both.
Other mental health options beyond counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy have also proven effective for depression and are widely used in the NHS.
There's more info on depression, here.
Ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 to check on availability and pricing of counselling in Backworth.
Although not always the case, the main driver of anxiety, can be conditioning, rather than beliefs. This means, an association we've developed attached to a certain set of circumstances or events, that we've developed unconsciously.
Techniques used by counsellors may help reduce the serverity of the anxiety reaction you're used to, as well as help you understand how the pattern of anxiety has developed.
Sometimes anxiety only occurs in very specific situations. These can be associated with just one event in the past (if traumatic) enough, where we've learned to fear a certain set of circumstances or events.
A counsellor can help you unearth where such an association may lie, and to view it from a different perspective, to help ease current day to day life.
Progress can be made on anxiety when we realise the fear is attributable not to the original stimulus itself - but what we thought it meant. Once we learn to make the distinction between the two, fear is usually lessened.
After discussing how anxiety impacts you in daily life, its patterns, and repeating elements, your therapist can provide options on the best treatment methods for you, to provide lasting results.
Counselling help for anxiety is available. Call us direct on 0191 580 3700 to arrange.
Relationship Counselling Backworth
All relationships go through turbulence, no matter who we are. In fact, relationships with those closest to us, like family, are often the most difficult. Contrasting viewpoints can arise as a result of upbringing, religion, schooling, or even simple generational differences. All of these can cause seemingly insurmountable issues, without help.
Marriages or civil partnerships can come under strain from issues like contrasting interests, differing priorities, and disagreements about what's important in life.
Tackling relationship issues in counselling is often the first time couples have seriously spoken to each other about what they truly want from life, and what they expect from each other.
Understanding and anticipating what your partner wants and expects from the relationship, needs daily work, and most couples are not clear on this.
Many times we don't understand our partner as we don't understand their past. The therapist can assist in helping each individual discover the whys behind the day to day behaviours they see, and how to navigate them.
Even just a few insights from a private relationship therapist can give tremendous progress in how you experience your relationship.
To find out more about relationship counselling, see our main page here.
To get started with relationship counselling, ring Truth Counselling Newcastle direct on 0191 580 3700.
Bereavement Counselling Backworth
Loss in life is usually related to a loved one or friend passing away. The extent of our grieving can differ though, from one individual to another. Losing a job due to unemployment, a partner due to divorce, or contact with a family member can result in loss, and the associated emotional issues to overcome.
Many find it difficult to even begin grieving, and feel stuck in a state of dissociation. It's also possible to become stuck in a never-starting, or never-ending cycle of grief, which carries its own complications.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
More information about grief and bereavement counselling is here.
For bereavement counselling costs and availability, call us on 0191 580 3700.
Anger Counselling Backworth
Anger is often the result of one of our most basic beliefs or values being contradicted.
Too many internal emotional restrictions, often self-imposed, limit our viewpont as to what is acceptable in life, and exacerbate anger.
Periodic angry episodes happen to us all, but more frequent or uncontrollable anger is more likely to require intervention and therapeutic help.
Managing anger practically like this, can help for the short term, but for long term resolution, therapeutic intervention is usually needed to understand the past, and how it has led to current day feelings of anger, as a habit.
If you cannot attend therapy for practical reasons or don't have enough time, perhaps anger management would be enough. However the time invested in therapeutic work is usually well rewarded.
More info on anger counselling options is available here.
Counselling for anger is available. To check on costs and ask questions, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Trauma/PTSD Counselling Backworth
Often we are unaware of the impact an emotional trauma has, until much later.
A traumatic experience can be anything which sufficiently breaks one's "model of the world" - the beliefs, values, and perceptions we have about how the world works, differences between right and wrong, etc.
Breaking these norms of experience can result in trauma - and feelings of isolation, loss of appetite, lack of socialising, dissociation and lack of interest in life.
We usually think of trauma as being an isolated incident, with it's victims typically portrayed as soldiers in combat, families in a war zone, or victims of domestic violence at home.
There is however also a lesser known version of trauma, the small t trauma - often a series of repeating minor episodes, nevertheless still resulting in longer term unresolved emotional distress.
Trauma counselling can help with both short term, one-off, obvious traumatic experiences, as well as longer term issues accrued over time.
Taking the step the get counselling can feel scary at first. But your counsellor has seen and heard emotional complaints of every size and type over their experience.
We have more info on trauma counselling options on our main page here.
To ask about pricing and availability for trauma counselling, ring us direct at a convenient time, on 0191 580 3700.
While coping with the busy-ness of every day life, it's easy to develop a dependence on a substance or, behaviour, without noticing.
Sometimes, when going through exceptional stress, we adopt a certain way to cope, as a one-off means to feel better.
It's surprisingly easy to continue using this one coping mechanism in this way, and thus end up using it as the *only* coping mechanism, whenever stress arises.
This can be a dangerous time - as too much overuse of one coping mechanism can convince us that the level of stress we're under - is ok.
Counselling can assist also in cases of non-substance related addiction, such as obsessive cleaning, or collecting things.
Counselling can help gain understanding on the underlying causal issues behind a pattern of behaviour in life. Addiction counselling can also provide short term coping mechanisms and signposting toward support channels until long term gains are made.
If you're thinking of addiction counselling, get your questions answered on 0191 580 3700.
Beginning The Counselling Journey
It's important agree the parameters of your work together, from the outset.
Charges & Payment
Some counsellors offer the first session free, to see if you are a good fit together. Check if your first meeting carries standard charges or not.
Even before therapy begins, you should make it clear what you want to achieve from counselling, how many sessions you expect, and what exactly constitutes a good result, for you personally. It's important to do this from the outset so that you understand each others' expectations, and the following sessions can focus on the counselling itself and not the practical elements.
Get Answers For These Important Questions
Choosing the right questions to ask before you begin can help find the right counsellor for you.
What if I don't get results?
- Have regular conversations with your therapist to make sure you stay on track toward your goals. Good two-way discussions about the practical sides of counselling ensure there is no risk of ending sessions suddenly and being in a vulnerable place, emotionally.
How long should therapy for (your issue) last?
- As you can imagine, there is no one size fits all solution in therapy - what's too long for you, may be too short for someone else, depending on their issues. The actual number of counselling sessions required will vary as a function of:
- Elements from the past, that surface during treatment, that require treatment before the primary complaint can be attended to.
- Many more events than anticipated, are contributing toward a current day pattern, and all need resolution before the pattern dissolves or the client feels better.
- Each individual processes emotions and changes of meaning, at a different rate, that is unique to them. There is no one fixed "speed" of emotional healing, and to expect this would be unreasonable.
Therefore, please do not expect a definitive answer to this question.
In terms of timescales, you both need to allow enough time to open up, access, and feel better about painful long term memories. A short time period in which to work together, can mean there is only enough time to open up milder issues. Whereas, a diet of long term therapy gives greater scope to make progress on deeper issues. Events with greater emotional intensity must be managed carefully. A good therapist will make sure there are no emotional loose ends left, at the end of treatment. Where possible, try to avoid stopping counselling sessions unexpectedly, as doing so can raise the risk of attempting to deal with open or raw emotions without appropriate support.
What is your background in counselling?
- Some counsellors can work a lifetime in only one problem area - making them very specialist - and sometimes more sought after. Being prudent with pre-purchase questions like these, will help you ascertain which therapist it's worth taking the counselling journey with.
How quickly can I begin?
- Counsellors often work across multiple clinics and locations on different days of the week - check if your diaries sync up at the right times.
Therapy In Backworth
Truth Counselling therapists work independently, and take care of their own diaries. We can usually offer counselling sessions at most locations throughout Tyne & Wear, including Backworth, by arrangement.
Getting Started With Counselling In Backworth
To get started with counselling, or just for an initial chat, we're available on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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