Selecting The Right Therapist Washington
It's easy to feel vulnerable or raw when starting out on counselling sessions.
You will likely be sharing details of your life, that you wouldn't normally share with anyone else.
It's easy to feel exposed or intimidated, when starting out, until a rapport is established with your counsellor. A good choice of counsellor can help you see a new perspective on life, and money well spent.
Finding The Right Counsellor
The following elements should be present, between you and your counsellor, for best results:
- Secure - Feeling safe is a pre-requisite, before we can open up and reveal personal aspects of our worries, to anyone.
- Permission - The therapy room should be a safe space where you have permission to express your feelings in a safe and protected environment. With the right help, you'll feel like your therapist is able to handle whatever comes up, no matter how you express it.
- Collaboration - A strong therapeutic relationship is very much a team-oriented endeavour. As a client you depend on the therapist to lend insight and perspective on the issue you face. Likewise, the client needs to be fully willing to answer questions and speak their truth, to enable results to be achieved. A two-way understanding is needed, to enable the change you want, to actually happen.
- Reciprocal Respect - Strong therapeutic relationships are built on a firm sense of respect and co-operation. e.g. If the speed of work is causing too much upset, or discomfort, speak to your therapist about slowing down so that you match each other's pace, and expectations. Also bear in mind, that no matter how emotionally painful something may feel in the short term, it's important to trust that the counsellor is leading you towards a comfortable resolution. Take motivation from the small wins during initial sessions, as these can fuel you for later working through deeper issues.
- Paying Attention - Is your counsellor alert and absorbing your feedback and input during sessions? A wise counsellor is aware, that much more can often be gained by staying silent, and listening closely, not only to what is said, but *how* it is said, in order to better understand a client's position, and be better placed to facilitate greater context (and more comfortable change. Ensure you are willing to listen to the counsellor when they do talk - as they could be attempting to help you give a more forgiving meaning, to a troublesome event, and thus ease your pain. It's easy to develop a habitual way of responding to certain questions, as we have done so, so many times, over years. However, concentrating on the questions asked, and providing answers that are unfiltered, and represent your true thoughts and feelings, will help you achieve results noticeably better, than simply responding with what you think you should respond with.
- Validation - The meanings we give to events, are as varied as human beings themselves. It's important that we feel our meanings are reasonable, given the circumstances. Does your counsellor bring the human elements to therapy? Empathy, validation, and understanding are the only starting point that allow better interpretations of old events, to flourish.
- Hope - We know we need to be more upbeat, eager, and cheerful about events. But that's usually in short supply, when counselling sessions begin. We usually need therapy help, because we've tried to overcome the issues ourselves, but without success. The counselling journey is not normally fast - it is a process. Sometimes getting wins from counselling is a combination of small wins initially, plus a lot of faith of greater future gains. Hope can carry us through even the darkest of times in life, and hope is important both in and out of the counselling room. But rather than holding out all hope for fantastic gains of huge magnitude, take faith and joy in the small steps during your counselling journey too, because they point you to other realisations you wouldn't otherwise have made.
- Trust - We have to first feel trust, that the counsellor can handle our emotional baggage, before we have confidence to release it. Part of the reason we're often attending therapy at all, is that a part of us knows, that some meaning we have given an event, is not quite right, and is causing emotions and feelings to arise, too often. Working with a counsellor as a neutral observer, can help us access deeper hurts that are ready to heal, as compared to attempting to work with someone we know, or even, on our own. Have confidence that your counsellor sees the bigger picture map of where you want to go, but is also adept enough to help you heal the small hurts along the way, too. Expect a counsellor to challenge you - that's their job. Feeling better means giving different meanings to old events - this means challenging you on the conclusions you've made, and the beliefs you hold. The short term discomfort of having our model of the world challenged must be offset against the potential emotional gains to be made, and the skill of the therapist in guiding you there. A professional with more specialism in your particular area of concern may help here.
- Perspective - A key reason people attend therapy is they feel - stuck - with a particular circumstance or set of feelings. A counsellor can help you identify practical actions that may help - but more importantly - highlight new perspectives that help you feel better, too. Having the insight to see what meanings need to be changed, to feel better, is something best left to the professionals. Your long term mental health can make great gains, where these fine distinctions are clearly recognised.
There are not many ailments which themselves, make it difficult for us to get professional help to remedy them - but depression is one of them.
Counselling can help identify and deal with the underlying issues and thinking patterns - your counsellor should help you recognise contributing issues and maintaining factors.
Depression can also respond well to other modalities and approaches, and your Doctor or medical professional may advise on exercise, dietary, and other changes that may help.
See more about counselling for depression, here.
Ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 to check on availability and pricing of counselling in Washington.
Anxiety Counselling In Washington
Long term generalised anxiety often comes from a learned association - a conditioning experience we've had repeatedly over time, but never really realised the conclusions we were making about it, unconsciously.
Getting help to recognise where the anxiety may be coming from, in the past, can help you break the old association, from current events, and recognise the two are different.
More specific anxiety such as acute episodes of panic or panic attacks, also have their roots often in the past, perhaps with a one-off specific experience, or association to an event, that we don't consciously realise.
Deconditioning work can be undertaken with a therapist's help, to help untangle the meanings attached to an original event, and thus feel better about it - and less anxious.
Multiple techniques are available when working with anxiety, such as desensitisation, exposure therapy, or purely work on past events in the therapy room.
After discussing how anxiety impacts you in daily life, its patterns, and repeating elements, your therapist can provide options on the best treatment methods for you, to provide lasting results.
Find out more about counselling for anxiety, here.
Relationship Counselling Washington
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, as part of the human experience. Contrasting viewpoints can arise as a result of upbringing, religion, schooling, or even simple generational differences. All of these can cause seemingly insurmountable issues, without help.
Marriages or civil partnerships can come under strain from issues like contrasting interests, differing priorities, and disagreements about what's important in life.
Counselling can help couples put aside differences and start learning and listening to each other, in earnest.
Relationship counselling can assist you both to see where the communication difficulties lie, and how to navigate them.
Many times we don't understand our partner as we don't understand their past. The therapist can assist in helping each individual discover the whys behind the day to day behaviours they see, and how to navigate them.
Paying for counselling means getting focussed and attentive help targeting the most personal and life-changing issues humans go through.
We discuss relationship counselling and marriage counselling options in more detail here.
If you want to get started with counselling for your relationship, get in touch by calling 0191 580 3700, or drop us an email at info ((at)) truthcounsellingnewcastle.co.uk.
We usually think of a friend or loved one dying, when we think of bereavement and grief. But, loss can also occur in many other forms, too. A sense of deep grief or loss can result from being unable to continue a favourite hobby, losing a pet project you've been working on for a while, or enforced retirement.
Simply starting the grieving process can be a challenge itself, as many worry they don't know how to grieve, or feel they should be grieving more, or less, than they are. Others become caught in a prolonged state of grieving, unable to continue functional life without feeling the deep emotions of loss acutely during everyday life.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
Full info on grief counselling is available here.
To get started with grief counselling, call us direct, on 0191 580 3700.
Anger results from a sense of values being broken, or boundaries being impeded upon.
Excessive anger often results from an excess of internal "rules" or beliefs, making it easy for them to be broken, and it therefore becomes easy to trigger a state of anger.
Anger management teaches practical tools and techniques to manage anger or rage episodes in day-to-day life.
Managing anger practically like this, can help for the short term, but for long term resolution, therapeutic intervention is usually needed to understand the past, and how it has led to current day feelings of anger, as a habit.
Both are appropriate for different individuals, at different times, depending on needs and circumstances.
More info on anger counselling options is available here.
Counselling for anger is available. To ask a question or check on availability, you can reach us on 0191 580 3700.
One-off experiences can seem harmless at the time, but depending on how we process them, can results in mental ill-health later.
Any event in life that is outside the range of our norms in life - what we believe, what we value, etc, can result in trauma.
Trauma often manifests as a sense of isolation or detachment from life, as if we are looking in at life, but not experiencing it personally.
A traumatic event can be a big, one-off, sudden, shock.
There is however also a lesser known version of trauma, the small t trauma - often a series of repeating minor episodes, nevertheless still resulting in longer term unresolved emotional distress.
We work with those suffering from all forms of trauma, including acute one-off episodes, through to PTSD or other more chronic manifestations of emotional trauma.
We understand that seeking a counsellor for this type of work can be unnerving, and it can be especially important to find a counsellor who meets your needs and is sympathetic.
Get full info on trauma counselling.
To ask about pricing and availability for trauma counselling, ring us direct at a convenient time, on 0191 580 3700.
While coping with the busy-ness of every day life, it's easy to develop a dependence on a substance or, behaviour, without noticing.
It's easy to establish a dependence on some means to cope, in the face of unusually high stressors, or an event we weren't expecting.
Repeatedly turning to this one way to feel better, can result in addiction.
With too much substance or behaviour abuse comes rationalisation - the belief that the level of stress we're dealing with is now normal - when in fact it is not.
Counselling can assist also in cases of non-substance related addiction, such as obsessive cleaning, or collecting things.
Most importantly, therapy work can help identify why someone is engaging in addiction, and why they keep coming back to it. While long term progress takes time, a counsellor can assist you in short term gains by helping you access the right support at times you feel triggered.
Questions re addiction counselling? Get answers direct on 0191 580 3700.
Beginning The Counselling Journey
How It Works
It's important agree the parameters of your work together, from the outset.
Private counselling costs can vary wildly, so do check beforehand about specifics. It's common for initial sessions to be a reduced rate, or sometimes, free. Check if your first meeting carries standard charges or not.
Agreeing On Progress Goals
Even before therapy begins, you should make it clear what you want to achieve from counselling, how many sessions you expect, and what exactly constitutes a good result, for you personally. If this is done at the start of the counselling relationship, it leaves the rest of the sessions to deal only with the actual counselling work, and not the practicalities.
What To Ask A Counsellor Washington
Getting answers to well chosen queries up front will help you make the right decision about what counsellor to choose.
What action do we take if I don't get any benefit from counselling?
- It's important, throughout the sessions you have, to check in with your therapist about the progress you're making, and your expectations of results and timeline going forward. As well as keeping things moving, this helps the therapist look after you best.
How long should therapy for (your issue) last?
- This is a how long is a piece of string question, with no real answer, except the following dependencies:
- Elements from the past, that surface during treatment, that require treatment before the primary complaint can be attended to.
- More past events than expected, may be contributing to the pattern of the problem you're experiencing in the here and now. These events take time to process, and feel better about, and can slow the progress of the main issue you went to counselling for. Nevertheless, they are usually necessary to overcome, for best results.
- Each individual processes emotions and changes of meaning, at a different rate, that is unique to them. Expecting anything different would not be appropriate.
For all these reasons, don't expect a concrete answer to this question - even a very experienced therapist will be giving you their best estimate, before therapy begins - there is no more accurate information available.
Remember, part of the counsellor's job Is to help you open up painful memories or feelings and re-process them, A short time period in which to work together, can mean there is only enough time to open up milder issues. Whereas, a diet of long term therapy gives greater scope to make progress on deeper issues. Looking at these more difficult events can take a longer time period. Avoid confusion or disagreement around the progress of counselling sessions, by keeping clear communication channels open throughout. This will minimise risk of sessions ending abruptly, with issues undealt with.
What is your background in counselling?
- Some counsellors can work a lifetime in only one problem area - making them very specialist - and sometimes more sought after. Getting answers like these will help you develop a sense of whether you and your counsellor will work well together, before you begin.
How quickly can I begin?
- Tracking down a specialist with expertise in your issue is one thing - but are they free to work with you? Don't forget to check.
Therapy Help Washington
Our counsellors are self-employed and independent. Central Newcastle is home to most of our therapists, however we can usually arrange sessions in surrounding Tyne & Wear locations, like Washington. Please ask if unsure.
Arranging Counselling Washington
To check on availability, costs of counselling in Washington, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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