COUNSELLING NEW HERRINGTON
Choosing The Best Talk Therapist New Herrington
Counselling is a personal experience.
Your counsellor is privy to aspects of your life, that no-one else is, not even family.
Professionals are used to dealing with life's personal details, but you may not be so used to opening up in this way. Making sure you've picked the right counsellor can mean the difference between a few short sessions with an unsuccessful outcome; and lasting positive change in your life.
Finding The Right Counsellor
A great counselling relationship, with appropriate boundaries, will be based on:
- Safe - The counsellor's room should feel like a sanctuary, sheltered from the external world, or it's concerns, so that we feel secure enough to speak about our worries.
- Unconditional Acceptance - If we don't first believe, that what we feel is ok, or acceptable, then it can be difficult moving on from there, toward feeling better. You'll know you may have found the best therapist when they allow you to fully express what's going on, without feeling restricted.
- Synergy - Good input from both you and your therapist, co-ordinated properly, is important. As clients, we look to the professional in the room, to help gain new insights, and help us change our mind about the events of our lives. However, if you are not 100% open and honest with the therapist, results achieved may be lacking. Your relationship with your therapist runs both ways, so that you achieve the change you're paying money for.
- Mutual respect - You & your counsellor require a sense of two-way understanding between you, and a respect for each other, in every element of the counselling relationship. e.g. The counsellor needs to work at your pace - the pace you feel comfortable revealing difficulties at, as to force too much change too soon, may be uncomfortable. Be assured that the counsellor is guiding you towards a resolution on even the most emotional of issues. Small wins can be the catalyst encouraging longer term gains, as the counselling relationship continues.
- Listening - One of the main counselling tasks is to be a good listener. Attention should be paid by the counsellor, to what the client says, but more importantly, what is also not said - as context, and non-verbal cues can often speak more about the meaning a client is giving to a word or phrase - than the words themselves. Likewise, as the client, you need to willing to listen to the context or perspective the therapist is attempting to help you see, even if emotions are high, and focus is difficult. We all have our stock responses for certain questions, that have become our usual responses, over the years. But being truly ready to listen to a counsellor's question, afresh, as if it's the first time you've heard it, can yield insights that were not possible in the past.
- Empathy - Everyone, with no exceptions, needs validation in the human experience. Does your counsellor bring the human elements to therapy? Empathy, validation, and understanding are the only starting point that allow better interpretations of old events, to flourish.
- Confidence - We don't usually start therapy in a confident place. A lot of folks find themselves at counselling sessions as a lst resort - they've tried everything they can think of, already. The counselling journey is not normally fast - it is a process. We need to trust that a positive outcome will happen, and a counsellor needs to be adept at illustrating how good things can be in the future, and help you see how that's possible, even though it won't happen overnight. Optimism about the future, and about what's possible, are important in life, regardless of whether you've felt the need for counselling help or not. But rather than holding out all hope for fantastic gains of huge magnitude, take faith and joy in the small steps during your counselling journey too, because they point you to other realisations you wouldn't otherwise have made.
- Trust - Knowing that, when we do put forth our concerns, we can trust a counsellor to assist in the most appropriate way, no matter how deep our emotions or feelings, can allow even the deepest wounds to heal. No matter how reasonable our feelings may be to an outsider, we almost always feel some element of shame, guilt, or similar, about the fact that we have these feelings at all. We can often feel more able to fully open up to a third party professional, someone who is not attached to our family or circumstances. Trust is required that (I) the counsellor can guide the entire counselling journey with you and (ii) they have the skills and competence required to help you resolve each individual hurt, too. The counsellor is not there to be your friend, however. Feeling better means giving different meanings to old events - this means challenging you on the conclusions you've made, and the beliefs you hold. This can feel uncomfortable at the time, but trust is required, that the gains will be worth it. There are two ways to make this easier - (I) do not tackle bigger issues in counselling until you've built confidence with your therapist by tackling small issues first; or (ii) look for a therapist who, from the outset, has longer experience, or more experience with your personal issues.
- Perspective - A key reason people attend therapy is they feel - stuck - with a particular circumstance or set of feelings. A counsellor can help you identify practical actions that may help - but more importantly - highlight new perspectives that help you feel better, too. Having the insight to see what meanings need to be changed, to feel better, is something best left to the professionals. A therapist who recognises this quickly, can help you generate desired changes, quickly.
Depression Counselling New Herrington
Ironically, depression itself can stop us getting help for depression - making it one of the most debilitating mental health challenges we face.
Whether you're suffering from short term sadness about a specific event, or longer term depressive symptoms, counselling can help overcome the thinking patterns of depression, as well as provide practical tools to recognise coping mechanisms attached, that may not be in an individual's best interests.
Depression can also respond well to other modalities and approaches, and your Doctor or medical professional may advise on exercise, dietary, and other changes that may help.
Get more info about counselling for depression.
Or, to enquire about counselling for depression in New Herrington, contact us direct using the link below.
Anxiety Counselling In New Herrington
Anxiety is sometimes the product of learned conditioned responses - this means our response to a certain trigger has become routine in our behaviour. This has later become a problem, often when the response generalises out to other areas of life.
Techniques used by counsellors may help reduce the serverity of the anxiety reaction you're used to, as well as help you understand how the pattern of anxiety has developed.
More specific anxiety such as acute episodes of panic or panic attacks, also have their roots often in the past, perhaps with a one-off specific experience, or association to an event, that we don't consciously realise.
Getting the help of a therapist can assist you in recognising where a previous association to fear may lie, and how to see it differently. This may help with anxiety experienced current day.
The therapist can utilise a variety of techniques to tackle anxiety, including deconditioning, work on associated past events, or desensitisation, depending on specifics.
Long term relief from anxiety can only be gained once your therapist has the information they need. They may ask about how the fear state happens over time, how it manifests specifically, and your current coping mechanisms.
Counselling help for anxiety is available. Call us direct on 0191 580 3700 to arrange.
Relationship Counselling New Herrington
From time to time we all have difficulties in relationships, whether this is a romantic relationship or not. Contrasting viewpoints can arise as a result of upbringing, religion, schooling, or even simple generational differences. All of these can cause seemingly insurmountable issues, without help.
Romantic relationships will always involve disagreements, over everything from the mundane routine of daily life, to one-off incidents, like infidelity.
Counselling can help couples put aside differences and start learning and listening to each other, in earnest.
It often takes an impartial counsellor to help both parties in the relationship see the world from the other's perspective.
In relationships, we are often seeking out a partner (unconsciously) to satisfy unmet needs of the past, or to resolve an issue we've had from a previous relationship. We don't realise this on a conscious level, of course.
Whilst we would all like to be able to improve our relationships without help, a private counsellor has the training and skills necessary to help you make noticeable improvements in daily life.
Counselling for your relationship or marriage is available.
To get started with relationship counselling, ring Truth Counselling Newcastle direct on 0191 580 3700.
The passing of a family member, friend, or pet usually explains an episode of sudden grief or loss. However, loss can be more subtle, yet just as profound, when it manifests differently. Losing a job due to unemployment, a partner due to divorce, or contact with a family member can result in loss, and the associated emotional issues to overcome.
Simply starting the grieving process can be a challenge itself, as many worry they don't know how to grieve, or feel they should be grieving more, or less, than they are. Others become caught in a prolonged state of grieving, unable to continue functional life without feeling the deep emotions of loss acutely during everyday life.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
More information about grief and bereavement counselling is here.
For bereavement counselling costs and availability, call us on 0191 580 3700.
Anger results from a sense of values being broken, or boundaries being impeded upon.
Anger can also be caused by too many "shoulds" in life, making it easy for self or others to break self-set rules, thus resulting in anger.
Anger management teaches practical tools and techniques to manage anger or rage episodes in day-to-day life.
Managing anger practically like this, can help for the short term, but for long term resolution, therapeutic intervention is usually needed to understand the past, and how it has led to current day feelings of anger, as a habit.
Both are appropriate for different individuals, at different times, depending on needs and circumstances.
More info on anger counselling options is available here.
Counselling for anger is available. To ask a question or check on availability, you can reach us on 0191 580 3700.
Trauma/PTSD Counselling New Herrington
A one-off, acute traumatic experience can last only seconds, but the emotional impact can last for years or decades, unless help is sought.
When an event happens in the outside world which goes against our understanding of life, it results in trauma, that is unprocessed.
Breaking these norms of experience can result in trauma - and feelings of isolation, loss of appetite, lack of socialising, dissociation and lack of interest in life.
Trauma is usually thought of as one-off, traumatic events, which we typically associate with war veterans, victims of crime, or domestic abuse, for example.
Multiple smaller traumatic episodes can also result in accumulated emotional difficulties over time, and it can be more difficult to label these issues as in need of acute mental health care, when compared to more impactful, one-off traumas from widely recognised sources.
Trauma counselling can help with both short term, one-off, obvious traumatic experiences, as well as longer term issues accrued over time.
By its very nature, trauma work needs an attentive and sympathetic counsellor.
Our main page on trauma counselling has more info.
To arrange counselling for trauma, or find out if we might work well together, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or request a callback, here.
Addiction to a substance or behaviour, usually happens incrementally, over time, and outside our conscious awareness.
Sometimes, when going through exceptional stress, we adopt a certain way to cope, as a one-off means to feel better.
But, continuing to abuse this mechanism we've found, over time, can lead to an unhealthy dependence.
Eventually we can end up believing that not only is the repeated use of the substance or behaviour ok, but that there is no unusual stress anymore - the stress of the original event has become normal.
While most present with an addiction to a substance like alcohol or drugs, an increasing number are developing behavioural addictions which could benefit from counselling, such as collecting or hoarding behaviour, viewing pornography obsessively, or compulsive shopping.
Most importantly, therapy work can help identify why someone is engaging in addiction, and why they keep coming back to it. It can also assist you in developing practical means to cope with the addiction in the short term, while longer term work on the underlying causes continues.
If you're thinking of addiction counselling, get your questions answered on 0191 580 3700.
Beginning The Counselling Journey
How It Works
Initially it's a good idea to agree upon the practical elements early on, like how often you'll meet, where, costs involved, and how long you both expect sessions to continue.
Private counselling costs can vary wildly, so do check beforehand about specifics. It's common for initial sessions to be a reduced rate, or sometimes, free. Sometimes the first session is allocated a standard rate.
Agreeing On Progress Goals
Have an open and frank discussion with your counsellor at the beginning, so that you see eye to eye on what will happen next. Dealing with these issues up front makes it easier to get on with the job at hand, later.
What To Ask A Counsellor New Herrington
Getting answers to well chosen queries up front will help you make the right decision about what counsellor to choose.
What action do we take if I don't get any benefit from counselling?
- It's important, throughout the sessions you have, to check in with your therapist about the progress you're making, and your expectations of results and timeline going forward. Good two-way discussions about the practical sides of counselling ensure there is no risk of ending sessions suddenly and being in a vulnerable place, emotionally.
When working with folks with (your issue), how many sessions of therapy does it typically take, to feel better?
- Bear in mind here that this is a very difficult question to answer, with no one solution, as it has so many (very personal) variables and dependencies built in - that are dependent on, for example:
- What comes up during therapy, that needs to be dealt with, that wasn't anticipated beforehand.
- Many more events than anticipated, are contributing toward a current day pattern, and all need resolution before the pattern dissolves or the client feels better.
- Each individual processes emotions and changes of meaning, at a different rate, that is unique to them. There is no one fixed "speed" of emotional healing, and to expect this would be unreasonable.
Accordingly, event the best therapist, will be giving you only their best opinion, of this question.
In terms of timescales, you both need to allow enough time to open up, access, and feel better about painful long term memories. If the counsellor is under the impression that your sessions are a regular, long-term event, they may help you open up more painful memories or events, with the intention of greater healing possibilities. Looking at these more difficult events can take a longer time period. If you are not open and honest throughout counselling sessions, it can present the possibility of sessions suddenly coming to an end, when emotions are high, and difficult to manage alone.
Do you have any specialities?
- Some counsellors can work a lifetime in only one problem area - making them very specialist - and sometimes more sought after. It's always good to understand the background of your potential therapist, and how that matches your experience, before beginning counselling.
How quickly can I begin?
- Therapists are usually busy people, with little spare time between sessions. Getting logistics sorted out now, will help later.
Therapy Help New Herrington
Our counsellors are self-employed and independent. Since they travel independently too, our therapists can often arrange local sessions in New Herrington, by arrangement.
Arranging Counselling New Herrington
To get started with counselling, or just for an initial chat, we're available on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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