Selecting The Right Counsellor Gateshead
Your relationship with your counsellor, is unlike any other.
You will likely be sharing details of your life, that you wouldn't normally share with anyone else.
Professionals are used to dealing with life's personal details, but you may not be so used to opening up in this way. A good choice of counsellor can help you see a new perspective on life, and money well spent.
Finding The Right Counsellor
A great counselling relationship, with appropriate boundaries, will be based on:
- Secure - Feeling safe is a pre-requisite, before we can open up and reveal personal aspects of our worries, to anyone.
- Unconditional Acceptance - If we don't first believe, that what we feel is ok, or acceptable, then it can be difficult moving on from there, toward feeling better. An experienced talk therapist can "hold the therapeutic space" no matter what trauma or issue arises, and help you navigate it, without feeling judgement or blame.
- Synergy - Good input from both you and your therapist, co-ordinated properly, is important. As clients, we look to the professional in the room, to help gain new insights, and help us change our mind about the events of our lives. However, if you are not 100% open and honest with the therapist, results achieved may be lacking. A mutually supportive, collaborative environment can help you get the change you want quickly, with the minimum of discomfort.
- Consideration - Let understanding and appreciation flow equally between you and your counsellor, to help achieve a stronger counselling relationship. e.g. The counsellor needs to work at your pace - the pace you feel comfortable revealing difficulties at, as to force too much change too soon, may be uncomfortable. Likewise, as the client, a healthy respect should be maintained for the counsellor to guide you towards an appropriate resolution for each issue, no matter how painful that may be, in the short term. Take motivation from the small wins during initial sessions, as these can fuel you for later working through deeper issues.
- Paying Attention - Is your counsellor alert and absorbing your feedback and input during sessions? Attention should be paid by the counsellor, to what the client says, but more importantly, what is also not said - as context, and non-verbal cues can often speak more about the meaning a client is giving to a word or phrase - than the words themselves. Sometimes it's difficult to focus during sessions when feelings are raw and vulnerable. Even at these times, listen to how your counsellor is guiding you toward a better understanding of events, and meanings that are easier to cope with. It's easy to develop a habitual way of responding to certain questions, as we have done so, so many times, over years. But being truly ready to listen to a counsellor's question, afresh, as if it's the first time you've heard it, can yield insights that were not possible in the past.
- Compassion - We all have an intuitive need to connect with others, and have our experiences and interpretations acknowledged as being real, and acceptable. An empathetic therapist hears and understands your issues, but also has the insight to guide you toward an even more helpful perspective.
- Hopeful - Most of us begin the counselling journey at a place where we do desperately need hope. A lot of folks find themselves at counselling sessions as a lst resort - they've tried everything they can think of, already. How fast you see results from counselling varies from one individual to another - but it's not a sudden series of overnight wins - more like a gradual campaign of change. Take comfort and faith from the smallest of breakthroughs made during a session - and allow it to build your hope of even better breakthroughs, in future sessions. Hope is a trait we all need, whether we're undertaking counselling or not. But rather than holding out all hope for fantastic gains of huge magnitude, take faith and joy in the small steps during your counselling journey too, because they point you to other realisations you wouldn't otherwise have made.
- Trust - We have to first feel trust, that the counsellor can handle our emotional baggage, before we have confidence to release it. No matter how reasonable our feelings may be to an outsider, we almost always feel some element of shame, guilt, or similar, about the fact that we have these feelings at all. We can often feel more able to fully open up to a third party professional, someone who is not attached to our family or circumstances. Have confidence that your counsellor sees the bigger picture map of where you want to go, but is also adept enough to help you heal the small hurts along the way, too. However, the therapist will not always be accommodating, like a friend. If you're to get progress from therapy, you'll need new perspective on the meanings you've given to previous issues. The therapist will challenge your opinions, to help you arrive at better perspectives. The short term discomfort of having our model of the world challenged must be offset against the potential emotional gains to be made, and the skill of the therapist in guiding you there. A professional with more specialism in your particular area of concern may help here.
- Insights - The professional status of a counsellor, and their detachment from your personal circumstances, means they gain nothing from telling you what you want to hear. Part of what you're paying a therapist for, is their ability to highlight big issues, and help you work through them. Having the insight to see what meanings need to be changed, to feel better, is something best left to the professionals. The difference is priceless, in the emotional peace a client experiences, over time.
Depression Counselling In Gateshead
There are not many ailments which themselves, make it difficult for us to get professional help to remedy them - but depression is one of them.
Depression can be the result of both unuseful thinking patterns and an ongoing state of helplessness or hopelessness. Counselling can help with both.
Other mental health options beyond counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy have also proven effective for depression and are widely used in the NHS.
Our main page for depression has more information.
To check on costs and booking options for counselling in Gateshead, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
The root of anxiety is often based in our learned associations - a repeated experience of negative reinforcement with something specific, can become a more generalised problem later in life, without realising.
A counsellor can help you identify how the past contributes to a current day pattern of anxiety in your life, and how to work on it, so that it produces less of an overt reaction in day-to-day life.
One off events in the past can also be the cause of more acute episodes of anxiety, such as panic attacks.
Getting the help of a therapist can assist you in recognising where a previous association to fear may lie, and how to see it differently. This may help with anxiety experienced current day.
Multiple techniques are available when working with anxiety, such as desensitisation, exposure therapy, or purely work on past events in the therapy room.
Long term relief from anxiety can only be gained once your therapist has the information they need. They may ask about how the fear state happens over time, how it manifests specifically, and your current coping mechanisms.
Counselling help for anxiety is available. Call us direct on 0191 580 3700 to arrange.
Relationship Counselling Gateshead
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, as part of the human experience. We all experience relationship difficulties, because, quite simply, we are all individuals, with unique backgrounds, history, upbringing, and values.
Marriages or civil partnerships can come under strain from issues like contrasting interests, differing priorities, and disagreements about what's important in life.
Refreshing your ability to relate to each other, in a healthy way, where understanding is clear and meaning is retained, can make real differences for both individuals.
When you live everyday with your partner, it often takes another third party to step in and help you see the wood for the trees, inside the relationship.
Sometimes a therapist can assist this understanding by helping you see how current patterns, relate to the past, and the previous episodes in life that each partner brings to the relationship.
Finding your way around these issues can be tricky without experienced help.
Counselling for your relationship or marriage is available.
If you want to get started with counselling for your relationship, get in touch by calling 0191 580 3700, or drop us an email at info ((at)) truthcounsellingnewcastle.co.uk.
We usually think of a friend or loved one dying, when we think of bereavement and grief. But, loss can also occur in many other forms, too. Losing a job due to unemployment, a partner due to divorce, or contact with a family member can result in loss, and the associated emotional issues to overcome.
It's easy for some to feel confused, or detached, from grieving initially, until the reality of the loss begins to surface in their life. Sometimes grieving can take over, and dominate the rest of life, in a prolonged state of emotional loss called complicated grieving disorder.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
Full info on grief counselling is available here.
To arrange sessions of grief counselling, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 and we'll get things moving.
Anger can manifest emotional, or in some cases, physical outbursts of rage, fuelled by feelings of injustice, boundaries being breached, or a personal hurt.
Anger can also be caused by too many "shoulds" in life, making it easy for self or others to break self-set rules, thus resulting in anger.
Periodic angry episodes happen to us all, but more frequent or uncontrollable anger is more likely to require intervention and therapeutic help.
Anger counselling aims to help understand the root cause of the anger better, in order to overcome the pattern of angry behaviour and feelings in your life.
Both are appropriate for different individuals, at different times, depending on needs and circumstances.
See our main page on anger counselling.
If you're struggling with anger, counselling may help. To ask a question or check on availability, you can reach us on 0191 580 3700.
A one-off, acute traumatic experience can last only seconds, but the emotional impact can last for years or decades, unless help is sought.
Any event in life that is outside the range of our norms in life - what we believe, what we value, etc, can result in trauma.
Trauma often manifests as a sense of isolation or detachment from life, as if we are looking in at life, but not experiencing it personally.
We usually think of trauma as being an isolated incident, with it's victims typically portrayed as soldiers in combat, families in a war zone, or victims of domestic violence at home.
There is however also a lesser known version of trauma, the small t trauma - often a series of repeating minor episodes, nevertheless still resulting in longer term unresolved emotional distress.
We work with those suffering from all forms of trauma, including acute one-off episodes, through to PTSD or other more chronic manifestations of emotional trauma.
We understand that seeking a counsellor for this type of work can be unnerving, and it can be especially important to find a counsellor who meets your needs and is sympathetic.
Our main page on trauma counselling has more info.
To ask about pricing and availability for trauma counselling, ring us direct at a convenient time, on 0191 580 3700.
While coping with the busy-ness of every day life, it's easy to develop a dependence on a substance or, behaviour, without noticing.
Sometimes, when going through exceptional stress, we adopt a certain way to cope, as a one-off means to feel better.
Repeatedly turning to this one way to feel better, can result in addiction.
Infact, repeated use of this coping mechanism, can result in a belief that the initial problem itself is acceptable, and encourages us not to address this initial problem, at the root.
Counselling can assist also in cases of non-substance related addiction, such as obsessive cleaning, or collecting things.
Counselling can help gain understanding on the underlying causal issues behind a pattern of behaviour in life. Addiction counselling can also provide short term coping mechanisms and signposting toward support channels until long term gains are made.
If you're thinking of addiction counselling, get your questions answered on 0191 580 3700.
Arranging Counselling For The First Time
Meeting Your Counsellor
It's important agree the parameters of your work together, from the outset.
Costs of the first session can be anything from free, to £100 or more in busy areas. Check the specifics with your counsellor. The initial session could be considered a regular session for cost purposes too. Check in advance.
Agreeing On Progress Goals
Have an open and frank discussion with your counsellor at the beginning, so that you see eye to eye on what will happen next. Setting clear expectations like this from the ouset leaves you free to focus on the real work of counselling.
Top Questions To Ask
Answers to the following questions can help you track down the most appropriate therapist for your needs.
What if I don't get results?
- Frequent discussions with your therapist will help keep things on track. Good two-way discussions about the practical sides of counselling ensure there is no risk of ending sessions suddenly and being in a vulnerable place, emotionally.
How many sessions should this issue take, in your experience?
- Bear in mind here that this is a very difficult question to answer, with no one solution, as it has so many (very personal) variables and dependencies built in - that are dependent on, for example:
- Interrupting elements of mental health that present during treatment, and impede progress on the main issue we're attempting to tackle during therapy.
- Inability to predict how many aspects of a given event will require resolution, in what order, and how many times, before feeling emotionally better.
- Two individuals can be attempting to overcome the same event. One takes much longer/shorter time than the other to achieve insights, and feel better. This is the human experience. Expecting anything different would not be appropriate.
Therefore, please do not expect a definitive answer to this question.
In terms of timescales, you both need to allow enough time to open up, access, and feel better about painful long term memories. A short time period in which to work together, can mean there is only enough time to open up milder issues. Whereas, a diet of long term therapy gives greater scope to make progress on deeper issues. Events with greater emotional intensity must be managed carefully. A good therapist will make sure there are no emotional loose ends left, at the end of treatment. Avoid confusion or disagreement around the progress of counselling sessions, by keeping clear communication channels open throughout. This will minimise risk of sessions ending abruptly, with issues undealt with.
Do you have research interests, or a specialism in one particular type of counselling?
- Certain types of therapy carry with them, specific types of training or qualifications. Making sure you and your therapist are a match, upfront, makes sense, and could prevent a costly mistake.
When will sessions start?
- Therapists are usually busy people, with little spare time between sessions. Getting logistics sorted out now, will help later.
Therapy Help Gateshead
Our therapists work independently. Although most of our counsellors are located in the Newcastle area, different counsellors offer therapy at different locations throughout Tyne & Wear, by arrangement.
How To Book Counselling Sessions
To check on availability, costs of counselling in Gateshead, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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