Finding The Right Counsellor Dinnington
Counselling can be an intimidating experience, for those experiencing it for the first time.
Your counsellor is privy to aspects of your life, that no-one else is, not even family.
It's easy to feel exposed or intimidated, when starting out, until a rapport is established with your counsellor. The wrong counsellor can mean wasted money and lack of results, as well as reduced motivation.
Finding The Right Therapist/Talk Therapist
The following elements should be present, between you and your counsellor, for best results:
- Safe - The counsellor's room should feel like a sanctuary, sheltered from the external world, or it's concerns, so that we feel secure enough to speak about our worries.
- Unconditional Acceptance - If we don't first believe, that what we feel is ok, or acceptable, then it can be difficult moving on from there, toward feeling better. With the right help, you'll feel like your therapist is able to handle whatever comes up, no matter how you express it.
- Collaboration - A strong therapeutic relationship is very much a team-oriented endeavour. As clients, we look to the professional in the room, to help gain new insights, and help us change our mind about the events of our lives. However, if you are not 100% open and honest with the therapist, results achieved may be lacking. A two-way understanding is needed, to enable the change you want, to actually happen.
- Mutual respect - You & your counsellor require a sense of two-way understanding between you, and a respect for each other, in every element of the counselling relationship. e.g. The counsellor needs to work at your pace - the pace you feel comfortable revealing difficulties at, as to force too much change too soon, may be uncomfortable. Understand that, even through the difficult sessions, the counsellor has a clear path ahead for you, and knows what they are doing. Take motivation from the small wins during initial sessions, as these can fuel you for later working through deeper issues.
- Listening - One of the main counselling tasks is to be a good listener. Understanding non-verbal communication during a session is often just as important for a counsellor, as words spoken aloud. Sometimes it's difficult to focus during sessions when feelings are raw and vulnerable. Even at these times, listen to how your counsellor is guiding you toward a better understanding of events, and meanings that are easier to cope with. We often respond to questions with our usual answers, that we routinely give in our normal environment. However, concentrating on the questions asked, and providing answers that are unfiltered, and represent your true thoughts and feelings, will help you achieve results noticeably better, than simply responding with what you think you should respond with.
- Compassion - We all have an intuitive need to connect with others, and have our experiences and interpretations acknowledged as being real, and acceptable. It's important to be able to feel that your counsellor is empathetic to your concerns and upsets, understands how and why you feel the way you do, and yet is also willing and able to help lead you to a better place about the issues you're bringing to therapy.
- Hopeful - Most of us begin the counselling journey at a place where we do desperately need hope. Most commonly we've tried everything we can, on our own, to feel better, but were unable. Therapy work takes time, and is not a quick fix, nor a one size fits all solution. Sometimes getting wins from counselling is a combination of small wins initially, plus a lot of faith of greater future gains. Being hopeful about the future is important, no matter how negative our current circumstances may seem. But rather than holding out all hope for fantastic gains of huge magnitude, take faith and joy in the small steps during your counselling journey too, because they point you to other realisations you wouldn't otherwise have made.
- Trust - This is very close to safety, as above. Our unconscious mind will generally not reveal anything sensitive unless it feels entirely safe and supported in doing so. Counselling usually involves revealing extremely personal feelings that we feel vulnerable about. Working with a counsellor as a neutral observer, can help us access deeper hurts that are ready to heal, as compared to attempting to work with someone we know, or even, on our own. Trust is required that (I) the counsellor can guide the entire counselling journey with you and (ii) they have the skills and competence required to help you resolve each individual hurt, too. However, if the counsellor always agreed with you, they would be a very well paid friend...correct? Their job is different. If you're to get progress from therapy, you'll need new perspective on the meanings you've given to previous issues. The therapist will challenge your opinions, to help you arrive at better perspectives. Instinctively, having our beliefs and opinions challenged can feel uncomfortable - and we must be willing to trust that the counsellor has positive intentions, in leading us to a better meaning, and thus, better feelings, about it. A professional with more specialism in your particular area of concern may help here.
- Perspective - A key reason people attend therapy is they feel - stuck - with a particular circumstance or set of feelings. A counsellor can help you identify practical actions that may help - but more importantly - highlight new perspectives that help you feel better, too. There is a difference between challenging productively, and challenging needlessly. A good counsellor knows when one particular belief is causing problems in other areas, and needs to be challenged, and when another belief is secondary, and can be left alone. The difference is priceless, in the emotional peace a client experiences, over time.
Depression is debilitating in that it is one of the few issues in life where the issue itself can prevent us from getting help for the issue - depression can stop us getting the help we need.
Counselling can help identify and deal with the underlying issues and thinking patterns - your counsellor should help you recognise contributing issues and maintaining factors.
Your doctor can advise on other depression treatment options beyond counselling, such as other mental health approaches like CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) or changes to exercise and nutrition. All options should be considered.
Get more info about counselling for depression.
To check on costs and booking options for counselling in Dinnington, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Anxiety is sometimes the product of learned conditioned responses - this means our response to a certain trigger has become routine in our behaviour. This has later become a problem, often when the response generalises out to other areas of life.
A counsellor can help you identify how the past contributes to a current day pattern of anxiety in your life, and how to work on it, so that it produces less of an overt reaction in day-to-day life.
One off events in the past can also be the cause of more acute episodes of anxiety, such as panic attacks.
Working on the associations of the past in this way, can often ease the anxiety experienced in present day life.
Progress can be made on anxiety when we realise the fear is attributable not to the original stimulus itself - but what we thought it meant. Once we learn to make the distinction between the two, fear is usually lessened.
Your counsellor is best placed to guide you through the best options for you, that will provides the greatest relief over time.
Counselling help for anxiety is available. Call us direct on 0191 580 3700 to arrange.
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, as part of the human experience. We all experience relationship difficulties, because, quite simply, we are all individuals, with unique backgrounds, history, upbringing, and values.
Romantic relationships will always involve disagreements, over everything from the mundane routine of daily life, to one-off incidents, like infidelity.
Counselling can help couples put aside differences and start learning and listening to each other, in earnest.
It often takes an impartial counsellor to help both parties in the relationship see the world from the other's perspective.
In relationships, we are often seeking out a partner (unconsciously) to satisfy unmet needs of the past, or to resolve an issue we've had from a previous relationship. We don't realise this on a conscious level, of course.
Paying for counselling means getting focussed and attentive help targeting the most personal and life-changing issues humans go through.
To find out more about relationship counselling, see our main page here.
To get started with relationship counselling, ring Truth Counselling Newcastle direct on 0191 580 3700.
Bereavement Counselling Dinnington
We usually think of a friend or loved one dying, when we think of bereavement and grief. But, loss can also occur in many other forms, too. A sense of deep grief or loss can result from being unable to continue a favourite hobby, losing a pet project you've been working on for a while, or enforced retirement.
It's easy for some to feel confused, or detached, from grieving initially, until the reality of the loss begins to surface in their life. Others become caught in a prolonged state of grieving, unable to continue functional life without feeling the deep emotions of loss acutely during everyday life.
Grief counselling is available to help you begin to process long or short term grief, in a supportive, structured, and safe space.
Find out more about bereavement counselling.
To arrange sessions of grief counselling, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 and we'll get things moving.
Anger Counselling Dinnington
Anger results from a sense of values being broken, or boundaries being impeded upon.
Excessive anger often results from an excess of internal "rules" or beliefs, making it easy for them to be broken, and it therefore becomes easy to trigger a state of anger.
Anger management teaches practical tools and techniques to manage anger or rage episodes in day-to-day life.
Anger counselling aims to help understand the root cause of the anger better, in order to overcome the pattern of angry behaviour and feelings in your life.
While practical tools and in-the-moment techniques are enough for many, it may benefit those looking for a longer term solution to focus on counselling instead of anger management.
See our main page on anger counselling.
If you're struggling with anger, counselling may help. To check on costs and ask questions, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Trauma/PTSD Counselling Dinnington
In reality, most of us are unaware, at a conscious level, of how an event can affect us, emotionally.
A traumatic experience can be anything which sufficiently breaks one's "model of the world" - the beliefs, values, and perceptions we have about how the world works, differences between right and wrong, etc.
Symptoms like desire to be alone, depression, helplessness or hopelessness, and social isolation can all be signs of unresolved trauma that may need professional help to resolve.
We often have a fixed idea about what trauma is, with a vision of a helpless person suffering a huge incident.
Smaller episodes of emotional distress are often dismissed as irrelevant and potentially less deserving of treatment. However the long term effects can be just as damaging as very obvious trauma.
Trauma counselling can help with both short term, one-off, obvious traumatic experiences, as well as longer term issues accrued over time.
We understand that seeking a counsellor for this type of work can be unnerving, and it can be especially important to find a counsellor who meets your needs and is sympathetic.
Get full info on trauma counselling.
To get your trauma counselling questions answered, ring us direct, on 0191 580 3700.
Addiction Counselling Dinnington
While coping with the busy-ness of every day life, it's easy to develop a dependence on a substance or, behaviour, without noticing.
e.g. We can develop a pattern of over-eating, in response to a period of high stress. It's natural for us to reach for some way to reduce the emotional discomfort we feel, in situations like this.
But, continuing to abuse this mechanism we've found, over time, can lead to an unhealthy dependence.
With too much substance or behaviour abuse comes rationalisation - the belief that the level of stress we're dealing with is now normal - when in fact it is not.
We normally associate addiction with substances like alcohol or drugs, but process or behavioural addictions are now very common, like shoplifting, sex, or food addiction.
Most importantly, therapy work can help identify why someone is engaging in addiction, and why they keep coming back to it. Addiction counselling can also provide short term coping mechanisms and signposting toward support channels until long term gains are made.
Visit our main addiction counselling page, here or, to ask about addiction counselling, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or request a callback, here.
Arranging Counselling For The First Time
How It Works
How often do you expect counselling sessions? What progress do you expect to make? Define fast and slow progress? These expectations can cary widely, so make sure you and your therapist agree on the details, from the outset.
Pricing varies, especially for private counselling. Most therapists offer a complimentary phone chat, to see if you two might work well. It's worth enquiring in advance as to the exact costs of the initial session, as many therapists treat it differently, depending on their individual circumstances.
What do you expect from counselling? Are you looking for the shortest possible fix? Or a longer exploration of underlying issues? Set the right expectations, before you begin. Setting clear expectations like this from the ouset leaves you free to focus on the real work of counselling.
Questions For Your Prospective Counsellor Dinnington
Answers to the following questions can help you track down the most appropriate therapist for your needs.
What action do we take if I don't get any benefit from counselling?
- Have regular conversations with your therapist to make sure you stay on track toward your goals. This also helps the therapist navigate your sessions together to be the most comfortable experience possible.
How many sessions should this issue take, in your experience?
- Bear in mind here that this is a very difficult question to answer, with no one solution, as it has so many (very personal) variables and dependencies built in - that are dependent on, for example:
- Other, emotionally related, problems, that get in the way of treating the main issue, and therefore must be treated first.
- Many more events than anticipated, are contributing toward a current day pattern, and all need resolution before the pattern dissolves or the client feels better.
- Differing rates at which different individuals are able to make sense of, and re-process, events. We all heal at different rates - this is normal.
Accordingly, event the best therapist, will be giving you only their best opinion, of this question.
Also, bear in mind - a counsellor's job is to help you feel better and process events and meanings better, to result in better emotional feelings and mental health. If the counsellor is under the impression that your sessions are a regular, long-term event, they may help you open up more painful memories or events, with the intention of greater healing possibilities. Looking at these more difficult events can take a longer time period. If you are not open and honest throughout counselling sessions, it can present the possibility of sessions suddenly coming to an end, when emotions are high, and difficult to manage alone.
Do you have any specialities?
- Some counsellors can work a lifetime in only one problem area - making them very specialist - and sometimes more sought after. Making sure you and your therapist are a match, upfront, makes sense, and could prevent a costly mistake.
When will sessions start?
- Tracking down a specialist with expertise in your issue is one thing - but are they free to work with you? Don't forget to check.
Counselling Sessions Dinnington
Our therapists work independently. Central Newcastle is home to most of our therapists, however we can usually arrange sessions in surrounding Tyne & Wear locations, like Dinnington. Please ask if unsure.
Arranging Counselling Dinnington
Get your counselling queries answered, and find out if we might work well together, by ringing direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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