COUNSELLING FOREST HALL
Selecting The Best Talk Therapist Forest Hall
Counselling is a personal experience.
You will likely be sharing details of your life, that you wouldn't normally share with anyone else.
Even though the counsellor hears these aspects of people's lives every day, trust needs to be developed between you, before it's easy to feel comfortable. A good choice of counsellor can help you see a new perspective on life, and money well spent.
Finding The Right Therapist/Talk Therapist
The following elements should be present, between you and your counsellor, for best results:
- Secure - A counselling room should be somewhere secure - a refuge from the outside world and its concerns, if we are to feel comfortable revealing very personal aspects of ourselves.
- Approval - A competent therapist should help you feel unconditionally accepted, no matter your feelings you have about a particular event. With the right help, you'll feel like your therapist is able to handle whatever comes up, no matter how you express it.
- Collaboration - A strong therapeutic relationship is very much a team-oriented endeavour. New ways to look at old events, often come from the therapist to the client. But the professional also has a need - for the client to be brutally honest and forthright. If not, the changes achieved may be short term. A two-way understanding is needed, to enable the change you want, to actually happen.
- Equality - Mutual understanding and appreciation is required throughout your counselling session and should underline all your work in the therapy room. e.g. The counsellor needs to work at your pace - the pace you feel comfortable revealing difficulties at, as to force too much change too soon, may be uncomfortable. Likewise, as the client, a healthy respect should be maintained for the counsellor to guide you towards an appropriate resolution for each issue, no matter how painful that may be, in the short term. When you've been able to overcome a few small issues after starting out with your counsellor, confidence can grow.
- Interested & Attentful - Professional therapists learn extensively on the art and benefits of listening closely during counselling sessions. A counsellor's silence can often be mistaken by the client as boredom or lack of interest. However, an experienced therapist is often ascertaining more from silence, or how the client fills in that silence - than the spoken word. Other times, the therapist may need you to listen - as they guide you towards seeing something from a different perspective. This can be challenging as we have invested a lot of time and energy in our pre-existing beliefs. We all have our stock responses for certain questions, that have become our usual responses, over the years. The counsellor will expect you to do a little active listening of your own, and to be intuitively truthful, in your responses. Your first response, from instinct, is often the right one, in these cases.
- Empathy - Everyone, with no exceptions, needs validation in the human experience. An empathetic therapist hears and understands your issues, but also has the insight to guide you toward an even more helpful perspective.
- Confidence - We don't usually start therapy in a confident place. A lot of folks find themselves at counselling sessions as a lst resort - they've tried everything they can think of, already. Therapy work takes time, and is not a quick fix, nor a one size fits all solution. We need to trust that a positive outcome will happen, and a counsellor needs to be adept at illustrating how good things can be in the future, and help you see how that's possible, even though it won't happen overnight. Hope is a trait we all need, whether we're undertaking counselling or not. To build hope from the start, ask your counsellor about their previous successes, in cases similar to yours. They won't disclose personal details, but the general picture they give you can help build confidence that this is a journey worth taking.
- Trust - Knowing that, when we do put forth our concerns, we can trust a counsellor to assist in the most appropriate way, no matter how deep our emotions or feelings, can allow even the deepest wounds to heal. In counselling, most of us reveal aspects of ourselves and our feelings, we don't reveal to anyone else, even family or loved ones. We can often feel more able to fully open up to a third party professional, someone who is not attached to our family or circumstances. Have confidence that your counsellor sees the bigger picture map of where you want to go, but is also adept enough to help you heal the small hurts along the way, too. Expect a counsellor to challenge you - that's their job. Feeling better means giving different meanings to old events - this means challenging you on the conclusions you've made, and the beliefs you hold. The short term discomfort of having our model of the world challenged must be offset against the potential emotional gains to be made, and the skill of the therapist in guiding you there. Sometimes better results can be obtained by seeking out a counsellor you've already worked with in the past, or someone who understands your issues well, before you begin sessions.
- Perception - The counsellor has the acumen, vision, and understanding to help you identify and remedy, areas where a better perspective on the event(s), may help. A trained counsellor can tell the difference between challenging you on an opinion or conclusion that may not be worthwhile, as opposed to helping you look differently at an event that can have a positive impact on your overall mental health. Idenitfying such issues can make the difference between fast and effective therapy, as compared to long unproductive sessions, with no end in sight.
Depression Counselling Forest Hall
There are not many ailments which themselves, make it difficult for us to get professional help to remedy them - but depression is one of them.
Whether you're suffering from short term sadness about a specific event, or longer term depressive symptoms, counselling can help overcome the thinking patterns of depression, as well as provide practical tools to recognise coping mechanisms attached, that may not be in an individual's best interests.
Other mental health options beyond counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy have also proven effective for depression and are widely used in the NHS.
Our main page for depression has more information.
Ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 to check on availability and pricing of counselling in Forest Hall.
Anxiety Counselling Forest Hall
The root of anxiety is often based in our learned associations - a repeated experience of negative reinforcement with something specific, can become a more generalised problem later in life, without realising.
Techniques used by counsellors may help reduce the serverity of the anxiety reaction you're used to, as well as help you understand how the pattern of anxiety has developed.
Counselling can also help with more specific fears, phobias, or episodes of panic, attached to just one episode in the past.
Deconditioning work can be undertaken with a therapist's help, to help untangle the meanings attached to an original event, and thus feel better about it - and less anxious.
Progress can be made on anxiety when we realise the fear is attributable not to the original stimulus itself - but what we thought it meant. Once we learn to make the distinction between the two, fear is usually lessened.
Long term relief from anxiety can only be gained once your therapist has the information they need. They may ask about how the fear state happens over time, how it manifests specifically, and your current coping mechanisms.
More info about counselling for anxiety is available on our main page here.
Relationship Counselling Forest Hall
From time to time we all have difficulties in relationships, whether this is a romantic relationship or not. The differing interests, beliefs, values, and even generational differences, can unwittingly create tension that is difficult to explain or comprehend fully, without assistance.
Romantic relationships will always involve disagreements, over everything from the mundane routine of daily life, to one-off incidents, like infidelity.
Refreshing your ability to relate to each other, in a healthy way, where understanding is clear and meaning is retained, can make real differences for both individuals.
Understanding and anticipating what your partner wants and expects from the relationship, needs daily work, and most couples are not clear on this.
Many times we don't understand our partner as we don't understand their past. The therapist can assist in helping each individual discover the whys behind the day to day behaviours they see, and how to navigate them.
Whilst we would all like to be able to improve our relationships without help, a private counsellor has the training and skills necessary to help you make noticeable improvements in daily life.
Get more info on our main page for relationship and marriage counselling, here.
To get started with relationship counselling, ring Truth Counselling Newcastle direct on 0191 580 3700.
Bereavement Counselling Forest Hall
The passing of a family member, friend, or pet usually explains an episode of sudden grief or loss. But we all experience loss differently, and to differing degrees, depending on what the loss relates to. A sense of deep grief or loss can result from being unable to continue a favourite hobby, losing a pet project you've been working on for a while, or enforced retirement.
Many find it difficult to even begin grieving, and feel stuck in a state of dissociation. Sometimes grieving can take over, and dominate the rest of life, in a prolonged state of emotional loss called complicated grieving disorder.
Grief counselling is available to help you begin to process long or short term grief, in a supportive, structured, and safe space.
Find out more about bereavement counselling.
For bereavement counselling costs and availability, call us on 0191 580 3700.
Anger can manifest emotional, or in some cases, physical outbursts of rage, fuelled by feelings of injustice, boundaries being breached, or a personal hurt.
Excessive anger often results from an excess of internal "rules" or beliefs, making it easy for them to be broken, and it therefore becomes easy to trigger a state of anger.
Periodic angry episodes happen to us all, but more frequent or uncontrollable anger is more likely to require intervention and therapeutic help.
Therapy for anger is quite different - and focuses instead on detective work around past events in life, family life, relationship issues, etc, as a means to get to the root of the anger habit.
If you cannot attend therapy for practical reasons or don't have enough time, perhaps anger management would be enough. However the time invested in therapeutic work is usually well rewarded.
More info on anger counselling options is available here.
If you're struggling with anger, counselling may help. To book sessions, call direct on 0191 580 3700.
A one-off, acute traumatic experience can last only seconds, but the emotional impact can last for years or decades, unless help is sought.
A traumatic experience can be anything which sufficiently breaks one's "model of the world" - the beliefs, values, and perceptions we have about how the world works, differences between right and wrong, etc.
Where trauma is unresolved, an individual will often experience lack of interest in life, detachment, nightmares, and lack of social interaction.
We often have a fixed idea about what trauma is, with a vision of a helpless person suffering a huge incident.
However trauma can also be much smaller, repeated episodes of emotional distress which, while no individual episode could be considered hugely traumatic, cumulatively add up over time, to aggregated emotional distress and difficulty.
A trauma counsellor can help with both types of trauma. Some have additional qualifications to assist with specialist interventions such as EMDR, or NLP techniques that have been effective with trauma sufferers in the past.
While attending counselling for the first time can be intimidating, your counsellor has done this many times before. Generally, there is nothing you can say that would surprise them or they have not heard before. The counselling room is the one place it's safe to open up and feel heard.
Our main page on trauma counselling has more info.
Questions about trauma counselling? Ring us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Addiction Counselling Forest Hall
Addiction can happen to us in a subtle way, in the background of our life, without us realising.
It's easy to establish a dependence on some means to cope, in the face of unusually high stressors, or an event we weren't expecting.
It's surprisingly easy to continue using this one coping mechanism in this way, and thus end up using it as the *only* coping mechanism, whenever stress arises.
Eventually we can end up believing that not only is the repeated use of the substance or behaviour ok, but that there is no unusual stress anymore - the stress of the original event has become normal.
While most present with an addiction to a substance like alcohol or drugs, an increasing number are developing behavioural addictions which could benefit from counselling, such as collecting or hoarding behaviour, viewing pornography obsessively, or compulsive shopping.
Counselling can help you overcome addiction by first understanding the benefit you get, from the substance or behaviour itself. While long term progress takes time, a counsellor can assist you in short term gains by helping you access the right support at times you feel triggered.
Questions re addiction counselling? Get answers direct on 0191 580 3700.
Your First Counselling Session
Meeting Your Counsellor
The first session is usually used to get to know your counsellor, and they you, and set appropriate expectations for your counselling sessions, for example, frequency, how many, charges, etc.
Pricing varies, especially for private counselling. Most therapists offer a complimentary phone chat, to see if you two might work well. Check if your first meeting carries standard charges or not.
Even before therapy begins, you should make it clear what you want to achieve from counselling, how many sessions you expect, and what exactly constitutes a good result, for you personally. It's important to do this from the outset so that you understand each others' expectations, and the following sessions can focus on the counselling itself and not the practical elements.
Questions For Your Prospective Counsellor Forest Hall
Getting answers to well chosen queries up front will help you make the right decision about what counsellor to choose.
How likely is it that I don't feel better after counselling?
- Make sure you stay connected with your therapist, and share the same expectations about the practical elements, throughout. As well as keeping things moving, this helps the therapist look after you best.
How long should therapy for (your issue) last?
- This is a how long is a piece of string question, with no real answer, except the following dependencies:
- Elements from the past, that surface during treatment, that require treatment before the primary complaint can be attended to.
- Inability to predict how many aspects of a given event will require resolution, in what order, and how many times, before feeling emotionally better.
- Two individuals can be attempting to overcome the same event. One takes much longer/shorter time than the other to achieve insights, and feel better. This is the human experience. The only "not normal" approach would be expecting everyone to feel better at the same rate.
Accordingly, event the best therapist, will be giving you only their best opinion, of this question.
Also, bear in mind - a counsellor's job is to help you feel better and process events and meanings better, to result in better emotional feelings and mental health. A longer time frame commitment from you, gives the therapist greater confidence in opening up longer term issues for work, they otherwise wouldn't do, with only a shorter time frame available. As you might expect, the more events are opened up, the more they have to be closed down, when treatment completes. Avoid confusion or disagreement around the progress of counselling sessions, by keeping clear communication channels open throughout. This will minimise risk of sessions ending abruptly, with issues undealt with.
Do you have research interests, or a specialism in one particular type of counselling?
- Some counsellors have historical experience or specialist qualifications in particular areas of therapy, such as trauma or PTSD, anxiety, depression, etc. Being prudent with pre-purchase questions like these, will help you ascertain which therapist it's worth taking the counselling journey with.
Can I start right away?
- Tracking down a specialist with expertise in your issue is one thing - but are they free to work with you? Don't forget to check.
Therapy Help Forest Hall
Our counsellors are self-employed and independent. Central Newcastle is home to most of our therapists, however we can usually arrange sessions in surrounding Tyne & Wear locations, like Forest Hall. Please ask if unsure.
Arranging Counselling Forest Hall
Get an idea of costs, and availability, by ringing us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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