Choosing The Best Talk Therapist Ryton
Counselling is a personal experience.
Your counsellor will understand you, in a unique way, that few (if any) others, do.
Even though the counsellor hears these aspects of people's lives every day, trust needs to be developed between you, before it's easy to feel comfortable. A good choice of counsellor can help you see a new perspective on life, and money well spent.
Finding The Right Counsellor
Finding the right counsellor means developing a therapeutic association which is based on:
- Secure - Feeling safe is a pre-requisite, before we can open up and reveal personal aspects of our worries, to anyone.
- Acceptance - Without the confidence that whatever we say, whatever interpretation we've given of a certain event, will be accepted, it can be hard to reveal much of our feelings, in order to get over them. The right counsellor will help pace the feelings and experiences you're describing, while allowing you to express all the associated feelings, untethered.
- Partnership - Working together with your counsellor should feel like a partnership. Clients need the counsellor to lead the session, set a safe space, and assist with new perspectives needed. Likewise, the client needs to be fully willing to answer questions and speak their truth, to enable results to be achieved. Your relationship with your therapist runs both ways, so that you achieve the change you're paying money for.
- Equality - Mutual understanding and appreciation is required throughout your counselling session and should underline all your work in the therapy room. e.g. If the speed of work is causing too much upset, or discomfort, speak to your therapist about slowing down so that you match each other's pace, and expectations. Understand that, even through the difficult sessions, the counsellor has a clear path ahead for you, and knows what they are doing. When you've been able to overcome a few small issues after starting out with your counsellor, confidence can grow.
- Paying Attention - Is your counsellor alert and absorbing your feedback and input during sessions? A counsellor's silence can often be mistaken by the client as boredom or lack of interest. However, an experienced therapist is often ascertaining more from silence, or how the client fills in that silence - than the spoken word. Sometimes it's difficult to focus during sessions when feelings are raw and vulnerable. Even at these times, listen to how your counsellor is guiding you toward a better understanding of events, and meanings that are easier to cope with. Rather than giving your rote-learned responses to your therapists questions, try to do your own active listening, instead. However, concentrating on the questions asked, and providing answers that are unfiltered, and represent your true thoughts and feelings, will help you achieve results noticeably better, than simply responding with what you think you should respond with.
- Empathy - Everyone, with no exceptions, needs validation in the human experience. Does your counsellor bring the human elements to therapy? Empathy, validation, and understanding are the only starting point that allow better interpretations of old events, to flourish.
- Hopeful - Most of us begin the counselling journey at a place where we do desperately need hope. A lot of folks find themselves at counselling sessions as a lst resort - they've tried everything they can think of, already. How fast you see results from counselling varies from one individual to another - but it's not a sudden series of overnight wins - more like a gradual campaign of change. An experienced counsellor can use the minor gains made during initial sessions, to help build your confidence that bigger gains are likely, later in the process. Hope is a trait we all need, whether we're undertaking counselling or not. To build hope from the start, ask your counsellor about their previous successes, in cases similar to yours. They won't disclose personal details, but the general picture they give you can help build confidence that this is a journey worth taking.
- Trust - Knowing that, when we do put forth our concerns, we can trust a counsellor to assist in the most appropriate way, no matter how deep our emotions or feelings, can allow even the deepest wounds to heal. Counselling usually involves revealing extremely personal feelings that we feel vulnerable about. We can often feel more able to fully open up to a third party professional, someone who is not attached to our family or circumstances. An experienced therapist is equally skilled at navigating both the bigger picture of where the therapy is going, but also the smaller picture of where you're at now. Expect a counsellor to challenge you - that's their job. If you're to get progress from therapy, you'll need new perspective on the meanings you've given to previous issues. The therapist will challenge your opinions, to help you arrive at better perspectives. Our instinct, when we feel attacked in this way, is to retaliate - but be assured that these challenges are well intentioned, and are there for the purpose of helping you heal. A professional with more specialism in your particular area of concern may help here.
- Perspective - A key reason people attend therapy is they feel - stuck - with a particular circumstance or set of feelings. A counsellor can help you identify practical actions that may help - but more importantly - highlight new perspectives that help you feel better, too. A trained counsellor can tell the difference between challenging you on an opinion or conclusion that may not be worthwhile, as opposed to helping you look differently at an event that can have a positive impact on your overall mental health. A therapist who recognises this quickly, can help you generate desired changes, quickly.
Depression Counselling Ryton
Depression is an issue that presents us with a unique challenge - how does someone with depression, who feels unworthy of help, who may believe they cannot get better - seek help for depression? It can become a vicious circle all too easily.
Depression can be the result of both unuseful thinking patterns and an ongoing state of helplessness or hopelessness. Counselling can help with both.
Depression can also respond well to other modalities and approaches, and your Doctor or medical professional may advise on exercise, dietary, and other changes that may help.
See more about counselling for depression, here.
Ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 to check on availability and pricing of counselling in Ryton.
Anxiety Counselling In Ryton
The root of anxiety is often based in our learned associations - a repeated experience of negative reinforcement with something specific, can become a more generalised problem later in life, without realising.
In counselling you should be able to identify the roots of where the anxiety has started, and get help to overcome the day to day impact anxiety has in your life.
Counselling can also help with more specific fears, phobias, or episodes of panic, attached to just one episode in the past.
A counsellor can help you unearth where such an association may lie, and to view it from a different perspective, to help ease current day to day life.
The therapist can utilise a variety of techniques to tackle anxiety, including deconditioning, work on associated past events, or desensitisation, depending on specifics.
Long term relief from anxiety can only be gained once your therapist has the information they need. They may ask about how the fear state happens over time, how it manifests specifically, and your current coping mechanisms.
More info about counselling for anxiety is available on our main page here.
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, as part of the human experience. Contrasting viewpoints can arise as a result of upbringing, religion, schooling, or even simple generational differences. All of these can cause seemingly insurmountable issues, without help.
Relationships with your significant other can be particularly challenging as their upbringing will consistently conflict with your own, in most cases.
Both people in a relationship can benefit, either from acute help for an urgent relationship difficulty, or ongoing work on relationship communication and interaction.
Understanding and anticipating what your partner wants and expects from the relationship, needs daily work, and most couples are not clear on this.
In relationships, we are often seeking out a partner (unconsciously) to satisfy unmet needs of the past, or to resolve an issue we've had from a previous relationship. We don't realise this on a conscious level, of course.
Finding your way around these issues can be tricky without experienced help.
Get more info on our main page for relationship and marriage counselling, here.
To enquire about costs or availability for relationship counselling, ring direct on 0191 580 3700.
We usually think of a friend or loved one dying, when we think of bereavement and grief. But we all experience loss differently, and to differing degrees, depending on what the loss relates to. A sense of deep grief or loss can result from being unable to continue a favourite hobby, losing a pet project you've been working on for a while, or enforced retirement.
Some are just beginning the grieving process and don't feel able to grieve, or feel fully. Sometimes grieving can take over, and dominate the rest of life, in a prolonged state of emotional loss called complicated grieving disorder.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
Find out more about bereavement counselling.
To get started with grief counselling, call us direct, on 0191 580 3700.
Anger can manifest emotional, or in some cases, physical outbursts of rage, fuelled by feelings of injustice, boundaries being breached, or a personal hurt.
Anger can also be caused by too many "shoulds" in life, making it easy for self or others to break self-set rules, thus resulting in anger.
Anger management teaches practical tools and techniques to manage anger or rage episodes in day-to-day life.
Rather than manage symptoms alone, counselling for anger issues is more likely to help by analysing how previous events in life have led to a pattern of angry behaviour, over time.
While practical tools and in-the-moment techniques are enough for many, it may benefit those looking for a longer term solution to focus on counselling instead of anger management.
Get the full info on counselling options for anger, here.
Counselling for anger is available. To book sessions, call direct on 0191 580 3700.
Trauma/PTSD Counselling Ryton
A one-off, acute traumatic experience can last only seconds, but the emotional impact can last for years or decades, unless help is sought.
Some traumatic events can keep us in a state of fight/flight until we're able to process them in a more gentle way.
Where trauma is unresolved, an individual will often experience lack of interest in life, detachment, nightmares, and lack of social interaction.
A traumatic event can be a big, one-off, sudden, shock.
There is however also a lesser known version of trauma, the small t trauma - often a series of repeating minor episodes, nevertheless still resulting in longer term unresolved emotional distress.
We work with those suffering from all forms of trauma, including acute one-off episodes, through to PTSD or other more chronic manifestations of emotional trauma.
Taking the step the get counselling can feel scary at first. But your counsellor has seen and heard emotional complaints of every size and type over their experience.
We have more info on trauma counselling options on our main page here.
To arrange counselling for trauma, or find out if we might work well together, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or request a callback, here.
Addiction Counselling Ryton
Addiction can happen to us in a subtle way, in the background of our life, without us realising.
If we go through a period of very high stress, it's natural for us to look for ways to ease the pain.
Repeatedly turning to this one way to feel better, can result in addiction.
With too much substance or behaviour abuse comes rationalisation - the belief that the level of stress we're dealing with is now normal - when in fact it is not.
While most present with an addiction to a substance like alcohol or drugs, an increasing number are developing behavioural addictions which could benefit from counselling, such as collecting or hoarding behaviour, viewing pornography obsessively, or compulsive shopping.
Counselling can help gain understanding on the underlying causal issues behind a pattern of behaviour in life. Addiction therapy normally includes work on both longer term patterns of addiction as well as trigger situations in the present moment of day to day life.
Visit our main addiction counselling page, here or, to ask about addiction counselling, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or request a callback, here.
Getting Started With Counselling
It's important agree the parameters of your work together, from the outset.
Some counsellors offer the first session free, to see if you are a good fit together. The initial session could be considered a regular session for cost purposes too. Check in advance.
Agreeing On Progress Goals
Even before therapy begins, you should make it clear what you want to achieve from counselling, how many sessions you expect, and what exactly constitutes a good result, for you personally. Setting clear expectations like this from the ouset leaves you free to focus on the real work of counselling.
Get Answers For These Important Questions
Asking specific questions before beginning work with a counsellor can help avoid wasted time and money.
What happens if I don't feel better?
- It's important, throughout the sessions you have, to check in with your therapist about the progress you're making, and your expectations of results and timeline going forward. Doing this regularly means everyone understands each other and there are no risks of suddenly ending a diet of counselling sessions unexpectedly, and without support.
How long will this take?
- Understand that this is a question with no one fixed, correct, answer. You're looking here for more of how the counsellor reacts, rather than the content of the answer. In reality, duration will depend on multiple factors:
- Other, emotionally related, problems, that get in the way of treating the main issue, and therefore must be treated first.
- More past events than expected, may be contributing to the pattern of the problem you're experiencing in the here and now. These events take time to process, and feel better about, and can slow the progress of the main issue you went to counselling for. Nevertheless, they are usually necessary to overcome, for best results.
- All of us move at our own speed in therapy, with the time taken to evaluate events, find better alternatives, and have appropriate insights, varying from one person to another. We all heal at different rates - this is normal.
For all these reasons, don't expect a concrete answer to this question - even a very experienced therapist will be giving you their best estimate, before therapy begins - there is no more accurate information available.
Also, bear in mind - a counsellor's job is to help you feel better and process events and meanings better, to result in better emotional feelings and mental health. A brief time frame for treatment may make a therapist more reluctant to explore very deep issues, since there may not be enough time to complete them satisfactorily, without leaving the client in a vulnerable place. Naturally, deeper work requires more time. Avoid confusion or disagreement around the progress of counselling sessions, by keeping clear communication channels open throughout. This will minimise risk of sessions ending abruptly, with issues undealt with.
Do you have research interests, or a specialism in one particular type of counselling?
- Perhaps your therapist has worked extensively with a focus on one type of complaint. Being prudent with pre-purchase questions like these, will help you ascertain which therapist it's worth taking the counselling journey with.
How quickly can I begin?
- Therapists are usually busy people, with little spare time between sessions. Getting logistics sorted out now, will help later.
Therapy Help Ryton
Our counsellors are self-employed and independent. Central Newcastle is home to most of our therapists, however we can usually arrange sessions in surrounding Tyne & Wear locations, like Ryton. Please ask if unsure.
How To Enquire About Counselling
Get your counselling queries answered, and find out if we might work well together, by ringing direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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