Selecting The Best Therapist Wideopen
Counselling can be an intimidating experience, for those experiencing it for the first time.
You will likely be sharing details of your life, that you wouldn't normally share with anyone else.
Although the counsellor may be impartial and ambivalent, opening up during a counselling session can feel vulnerable. Making sure you've picked the right counsellor can mean the difference between a few short sessions with an unsuccessful outcome; and lasting positive change in your life.
Finding The Right Counsellor
A great counselling relationship, with appropriate boundaries, will be based on:
- Secure - Feeling safe is a pre-requisite, before we can open up and reveal personal aspects of our worries, to anyone.
- Approval - A competent therapist should help you feel unconditionally accepted, no matter your feelings you have about a particular event. An experienced talk therapist can "hold the therapeutic space" no matter what trauma or issue arises, and help you navigate it, without feeling judgement or blame.
- Teamwork - Find someone who you can work together with easily, for best outcomes. As a client you depend on the therapist to lend insight and perspective on the issue you face. Likewise, the client needs to be fully willing to answer questions and speak their truth, to enable results to be achieved. If you do not fully reveal the info asked of you, it may take longer to achieve the change you want.
- Mutual respect - You & your counsellor require a sense of two-way understanding between you, and a respect for each other, in every element of the counselling relationship. e.g. If your therapist works too slow - the lack of results can mean motivation reduces. But if they work too fast, it can feel awkward, or distressing. Likewise, as the client, a healthy respect should be maintained for the counsellor to guide you towards an appropriate resolution for each issue, no matter how painful that may be, in the short term. Small wins can be the catalyst encouraging longer term gains, as the counselling relationship continues.
- Active Listener - Thorough counsellors are accomplished at active listening. Understanding non-verbal communication during a session is often just as important for a counsellor, as words spoken aloud. Other times, the therapist may need you to listen - as they guide you towards seeing something from a different perspective. This can be challenging as we have invested a lot of time and energy in our pre-existing beliefs. We all have our stock responses for certain questions, that have become our usual responses, over the years. Interesting results can be achieved by listening intently to the therapist's question, as though it's the first time you'd heard it.
- Validation - The meanings we give to events, are as varied as human beings themselves. It's important that we feel our meanings are reasonable, given the circumstances. It's important to be able to feel that your counsellor is empathetic to your concerns and upsets, understands how and why you feel the way you do, and yet is also willing and able to help lead you to a better place about the issues you're bringing to therapy.
- Hope - We know we need to be more upbeat, eager, and cheerful about events. But that's usually in short supply, when counselling sessions begin. A lot of folks find themselves at counselling sessions as a lst resort - they've tried everything they can think of, already. Results from counselling take time - we are dealing often with long term or deep seated issues, that need solid detective work, before beginning the process of change. Sometimes getting wins from counselling is a combination of small wins initially, plus a lot of faith of greater future gains. Hope is a trait we all need, whether we're undertaking counselling or not. What experience does your counsellor have with your issue specifically? How have they helped others, like you, in the past? Use these questions to decide if this counsellor's experience matches your expectations.
- Trust - Knowing that, when we do put forth our concerns, we can trust a counsellor to assist in the most appropriate way, no matter how deep our emotions or feelings, can allow even the deepest wounds to heal. Counselling usually involves revealing extremely personal feelings that we feel vulnerable about. We can often feel more able to fully open up to a third party professional, someone who is not attached to our family or circumstances. Trust is required that (I) the counsellor can guide the entire counselling journey with you and (ii) they have the skills and competence required to help you resolve each individual hurt, too. However, the therapist will not always be accommodating, like a friend. Expect your beliefs, values, and opinions, to be shaken up, and looked at closely - this is where much of the healing potential lies. Instinctively, having our beliefs and opinions challenged can feel uncomfortable - and we must be willing to trust that the counsellor has positive intentions, in leading us to a better meaning, and thus, better feelings, about it. Sometimes better results can be obtained by seeking out a counsellor you've already worked with in the past, or someone who understands your issues well, before you begin sessions.
- Perspective - A key reason people attend therapy is they feel - stuck - with a particular circumstance or set of feelings. A counsellor can help you identify practical actions that may help - but more importantly - highlight new perspectives that help you feel better, too. Having the insight to see what meanings need to be changed, to feel better, is something best left to the professionals. The difference is priceless, in the emotional peace a client experiences, over time.
Depression Counselling Wideopen
There are not many ailments which themselves, make it difficult for us to get professional help to remedy them - but depression is one of them.
Whether you're suffering from short term sadness about a specific event, or longer term depressive symptoms, counselling can help overcome the thinking patterns of depression, as well as provide practical tools to recognise coping mechanisms attached, that may not be in an individual's best interests.
Some also look at other options for depression, such as herbal remedies e.g. St John's Wort, or supplements such as 5 Hydroxy-Tryptophan. Always seek the advice of your medical professional, for these items.
There's more info on depression, here.
Ring us direct on 0191 580 3700 to check on availability and pricing of counselling in Wideopen.
Anxiety Counselling In Wideopen
Anxiety is sometimes the product of learned conditioned responses - this means our response to a certain trigger has become routine in our behaviour. This has later become a problem, often when the response generalises out to other areas of life.
A counsellor can help you identify how the past contributes to a current day pattern of anxiety in your life, and how to work on it, so that it produces less of an overt reaction in day-to-day life.
One off events in the past can also be the cause of more acute episodes of anxiety, such as panic attacks.
Deconditioning work can be undertaken with a therapist's help, to help untangle the meanings attached to an original event, and thus feel better about it - and less anxious.
Multiple techniques are available when working with anxiety, such as desensitisation, exposure therapy, or purely work on past events in the therapy room.
Your counsellor is best placed to guide you through the best options for you, that will provides the greatest relief over time.
Find out more about counselling for anxiety, here.
Relationship Counselling Wideopen
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, as part of the human experience. Differing backgrounds, values, and even age, can all bring conflicting interests into the open, creating situations that are extremely difficult to navigate, without professional assistance.
Relationships with your significant other can be particularly challenging as their upbringing will consistently conflict with your own, in most cases.
Counselling can help couples put aside differences and start learning and listening to each other, in earnest.
Relationship counselling can assist you both to see where the communication difficulties lie, and how to navigate them.
Sometimes a therapist can assist this understanding by helping you see how current patterns, relate to the past, and the previous episodes in life that each partner brings to the relationship.
Even just a few insights from a private relationship therapist can give tremendous progress in how you experience your relationship.
To find out more about relationship counselling, see our main page here.
To get started with relationship counselling, ring Truth Counselling Newcastle direct on 0191 580 3700.
We usually associate bereavement with the passing of a loved one, or a pet. But we all experience loss differently, and to differing degrees, depending on what the loss relates to. A sense of deep grief or loss can result from being unable to continue a favourite hobby, losing a pet project you've been working on for a while, or enforced retirement.
Simply starting the grieving process can be a challenge itself, as many worry they don't know how to grieve, or feel they should be grieving more, or less, than they are. Sometimes grieving can take over, and dominate the rest of life, in a prolonged state of emotional loss called complicated grieving disorder.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
More information about grief and bereavement counselling is here.
For bereavement counselling costs and availability, call us on 0191 580 3700.
Anger Counselling Wideopen
Anger results from a sense of values being broken, or boundaries being impeded upon.
Too many internal emotional restrictions, often self-imposed, limit our viewpont as to what is acceptable in life, and exacerbate anger.
Anger management teaches practical tools and techniques to manage anger or rage episodes in day-to-day life.
Therapy for anger is quite different - and focuses instead on detective work around past events in life, family life, relationship issues, etc, as a means to get to the root of the anger habit.
While practical tools and in-the-moment techniques are enough for many, it may benefit those looking for a longer term solution to focus on counselling instead of anger management.
See our main page on anger counselling.
Counselling for anger is available. To ask a question or check on availability, you can reach us on 0191 580 3700.
In reality, most of us are unaware, at a conscious level, of how an event can affect us, emotionally.
Some traumatic events can keep us in a state of fight/flight until we're able to process them in a more gentle way.
Breaking these norms of experience can result in trauma - and feelings of isolation, loss of appetite, lack of socialising, dissociation and lack of interest in life.
Trauma is usually thought of as one-off, traumatic events, which we typically associate with war veterans, victims of crime, or domestic abuse, for example.
There is however also a lesser known version of trauma, the small t trauma - often a series of repeating minor episodes, nevertheless still resulting in longer term unresolved emotional distress.
Trauma counselling is equally suitable for both these types of distress.
Taking the step the get counselling can feel scary at first. But your counsellor has seen and heard emotional complaints of every size and type over their experience.
To read more about trauma counselling, visit our main trauma page.
To get your trauma counselling questions answered, ring us direct, on 0191 580 3700.
Addiction Counselling Wideopen
Addiction to a substance or behaviour, usually happens incrementally, over time, and outside our conscious awareness.
It's easy to establish a dependence on some means to cope, in the face of unusually high stressors, or an event we weren't expecting.
It's surprisingly easy to continue using this one coping mechanism in this way, and thus end up using it as the *only* coping mechanism, whenever stress arises.
Eventually we can end up believing that not only is the repeated use of the substance or behaviour ok, but that there is no unusual stress anymore - the stress of the original event has become normal.
Behavioural addictions, or process addictions, like OCD, hoarding, eating, etc, are now just as common as classic substance addictions, like cigarettes or drugs.
Most importantly, therapy work can help identify why someone is engaging in addiction, and why they keep coming back to it. While long term progress takes time, a counsellor can assist you in short term gains by helping you access the right support at times you feel triggered.
Visit our main addiction counselling page, here or, to ask about addiction counselling, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or request a callback, here.
Getting Started With Counselling
Meeting Your Counsellor
The first session is usually used to get to know your counsellor, and they you, and set appropriate expectations for your counselling sessions, for example, frequency, how many, charges, etc.
Some counsellors offer the first session free, to see if you are a good fit together. Sometimes the first session is allocated a standard rate.
Normally when beginning counselling, you and your therapist will agree on the goals and outcome you want to achieve, and set a timeline for treatment, and how many sessions you'll complete together. It's important to do this from the outset so that you understand each others' expectations, and the following sessions can focus on the counselling itself and not the practical elements.
Get Answers For These Important Questions
Getting answers to well chosen queries up front will help you make the right decision about what counsellor to choose.
What action do we take if I don't get any benefit from counselling?
- Make sure you stay connected with your therapist, and share the same expectations about the practical elements, throughout. Doing this regularly means everyone understands each other and there are no risks of suddenly ending a diet of counselling sessions unexpectedly, and without support.
How many sessions should this issue take, in your experience?
- Bear in mind here that this is a very difficult question to answer, with no one solution, as it has so many (very personal) variables and dependencies built in - that are dependent on, for example:
- Other, emotionally related, problems, that get in the way of treating the main issue, and therefore must be treated first.
- A behavioural pattern you seek to dissolve or resolve, has many more contributing events from the past, than originally expected, and all need to be resolved to dissolve the behavioural pattern
- All of us move at our own speed in therapy, with the time taken to evaluate events, find better alternatives, and have appropriate insights, varying from one person to another. The only "not normal" approach would be expecting everyone to feel better at the same rate.
For all these reasons, don't expect a concrete answer to this question - even a very experienced therapist will be giving you their best estimate, before therapy begins - there is no more accurate information available.
Remember, part of the counsellor's job Is to help you open up painful memories or feelings and re-process them, A brief time frame for treatment may make a therapist more reluctant to explore very deep issues, since there may not be enough time to complete them satisfactorily, without leaving the client in a vulnerable place. As you might expect, the more events are opened up, the more they have to be closed down, when treatment completes. It's important to communicate clearly throughout counselling sessions, to make sure misunderstandings don't occur.
What is your background in counselling?
- Perhaps your therapist has worked extensively with a focus on one type of complaint. It's always good to understand the background of your potential therapist, and how that matches your experience, before beginning counselling.
Can I start right away?
- Tracking down a specialist with expertise in your issue is one thing - but are they free to work with you? Don't forget to check.
Therapy In Wideopen
Truth Counselling's counsellors work independently. Central Newcastle is home to most of our therapists, however we can usually arrange sessions in surrounding Tyne & Wear locations, like Wideopen. Please ask if unsure.
Getting Started With Counselling In Wideopen
Get an idea of costs, and availability, by ringing us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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