Selecting The Best Talk Therapist Hebburn
Counselling is a personal experience.
The relationship between you and your counsellor, is a private one.
It's easy to feel exposed or intimidated, when starting out, until a rapport is established with your counsellor. The wrong counsellor can mean wasted money and lack of results, as well as reduced motivation.
Finding The Right Counsellor
A great counselling relationship, with appropriate boundaries, will be based on:
- Safety - If we don't have an underlying sense of safety in therapy, from the outset, it's unlikely progress will be made.
- Approval - A competent therapist should help you feel unconditionally accepted, no matter your feelings you have about a particular event. The right counsellor will help pace the feelings and experiences you're describing, while allowing you to express all the associated feelings, untethered.
- Synergy - Good input from both you and your therapist, co-ordinated properly, is important. New ways to look at old events, often come from the therapist to the client. Equally, the counsellor depends on you to be as honest and open as possible, or they have nothing to work with, and little progress can be made. If you do not fully reveal the info asked of you, it may take longer to achieve the change you want.
- Equality - Mutual understanding and appreciation is required throughout your counselling session and should underline all your work in the therapy room. e.g. If your therapist works too slow - the lack of results can mean motivation reduces. But if they work too fast, it can feel awkward, or distressing. Also bear in mind, that no matter how emotionally painful something may feel in the short term, it's important to trust that the counsellor is leading you towards a comfortable resolution. Take motivation from the small wins during initial sessions, as these can fuel you for later working through deeper issues.
- Active Listener - Thorough counsellors are accomplished at active listening. Understanding non-verbal communication during a session is often just as important for a counsellor, as words spoken aloud. Likewise, as the client, you need to willing to listen to the context or perspective the therapist is attempting to help you see, even if emotions are high, and focus is difficult. Rather than giving your rote-learned responses to your therapists questions, try to do your own active listening, instead. Interesting results can be achieved by listening intently to the therapist's question, as though it's the first time you'd heard it.
- Compassion - We all have an intuitive need to connect with others, and have our experiences and interpretations acknowledged as being real, and acceptable. Does your counsellor bring the human elements to therapy? Empathy, validation, and understanding are the only starting point that allow better interpretations of old events, to flourish.
- Hopeful - Most of us begin the counselling journey at a place where we do desperately need hope. We usually need therapy help, because we've tried to overcome the issues ourselves, but without success. How fast you see results from counselling varies from one individual to another - but it's not a sudden series of overnight wins - more like a gradual campaign of change. Sometimes getting wins from counselling is a combination of small wins initially, plus a lot of faith of greater future gains. Optimism about the future, and about what's possible, are important in life, regardless of whether you've felt the need for counselling help or not. To build hope from the start, ask your counsellor about their previous successes, in cases similar to yours. They won't disclose personal details, but the general picture they give you can help build confidence that this is a journey worth taking.
- Trust - Knowing that, when we do put forth our concerns, we can trust a counsellor to assist in the most appropriate way, no matter how deep our emotions or feelings, can allow even the deepest wounds to heal. No matter how reasonable our feelings may be to an outsider, we almost always feel some element of shame, guilt, or similar, about the fact that we have these feelings at all. We can often feel more able to fully open up to a third party professional, someone who is not attached to our family or circumstances. Trust is required that (I) the counsellor can guide the entire counselling journey with you and (ii) they have the skills and competence required to help you resolve each individual hurt, too. The counsellor is not there to be your friend, however. Feeling better means giving different meanings to old events - this means challenging you on the conclusions you've made, and the beliefs you hold. The short term discomfort of having our model of the world challenged must be offset against the potential emotional gains to be made, and the skill of the therapist in guiding you there. There are two ways to make this easier - (I) do not tackle bigger issues in counselling until you've built confidence with your therapist by tackling small issues first; or (ii) look for a therapist who, from the outset, has longer experience, or more experience with your personal issues.
- Perception - The counsellor has the acumen, vision, and understanding to help you identify and remedy, areas where a better perspective on the event(s), may help. Having the insight to see what meanings need to be changed, to feel better, is something best left to the professionals. The difference is priceless, in the emotional peace a client experiences, over time.
Depression Counselling In Hebburn
Depression is an issue that presents us with a unique challenge - how does someone with depression, who feels unworthy of help, who may believe they cannot get better - seek help for depression? It can become a vicious circle all too easily.
Whether you're suffering from short term sadness about a specific event, or longer term depressive symptoms, counselling can help overcome the thinking patterns of depression, as well as provide practical tools to recognise coping mechanisms attached, that may not be in an individual's best interests.
Other mental health options beyond counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy have also proven effective for depression and are widely used in the NHS.
See more about counselling for depression, here.
To check on costs and booking options for counselling in Hebburn, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Anxiety Counselling In Hebburn
Anxiety is sometimes the product of learned conditioned responses - this means our response to a certain trigger has become routine in our behaviour. This has later become a problem, often when the response generalises out to other areas of life.
Techniques used by counsellors may help reduce the serverity of the anxiety reaction you're used to, as well as help you understand how the pattern of anxiety has developed.
One off events in the past can also be the cause of more acute episodes of anxiety, such as panic attacks.
Working on the associations of the past in this way, can often ease the anxiety experienced in present day life.
The therapist can utilise a variety of techniques to tackle anxiety, including deconditioning, work on associated past events, or desensitisation, depending on specifics.
Your counsellor is best placed to guide you through the best options for you, that will provides the greatest relief over time.
Get the full info on counselling for anxiety here.
From time to time we all have difficulties in relationships, whether this is a romantic relationship or not. Differing backgrounds, values, and even age, can all bring conflicting interests into the open, creating situations that are extremely difficult to navigate, without professional assistance.
Romantic relationships will always involve disagreements, over everything from the mundane routine of daily life, to one-off incidents, like infidelity.
Tackling relationship issues in counselling is often the first time couples have seriously spoken to each other about what they truly want from life, and what they expect from each other.
Relationship counselling can assist you both to see where the communication difficulties lie, and how to navigate them.
Many times we don't understand our partner as we don't understand their past. The therapist can assist in helping each individual discover the whys behind the day to day behaviours they see, and how to navigate them.
Paying for counselling means getting focussed and attentive help targeting the most personal and life-changing issues humans go through.
Counselling for your relationship or marriage is available.
Or, to arrange relationship counselling now, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or ask for a callback, on the form opposite. We'll ring you back at a convenient time.
We usually associate bereavement with the passing of a loved one, or a pet. But, loss can also occur in many other forms, too. A sense of deep grief or loss can result from being unable to continue a favourite hobby, losing a pet project you've been working on for a while, or enforced retirement.
It's easy for some to feel confused, or detached, from grieving initially, until the reality of the loss begins to surface in their life. Sometimes grieving can take over, and dominate the rest of life, in a prolonged state of emotional loss called complicated grieving disorder.
Grief counselling can help you make key distinctions between a grieving process that is appropriate and healthy, as opposed to one that has become a problem.
Get more info on our main grief counselling page, here.
For bereavement counselling costs and availability, call us on 0191 580 3700.
Anger results from a sense of values being broken, or boundaries being impeded upon.
Excessive anger often results from an excess of internal "rules" or beliefs, making it easy for them to be broken, and it therefore becomes easy to trigger a state of anger.
Irregular bouts of anger can crop up during particularly stressful times or life events, and can be managed temporarily by attempting to alleviate stress in general.
Anger counselling aims to help understand the root cause of the anger better, in order to overcome the pattern of angry behaviour and feelings in your life.
Both are appropriate for different individuals, at different times, depending on needs and circumstances.
More info on anger counselling options is available here.
Private anger therapy is now available to book. To check on costs and ask questions, call us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Trauma/PTSD Counselling Hebburn
A one-off, acute traumatic experience can last only seconds, but the emotional impact can last for years or decades, unless help is sought.
When an event happens in the outside world which goes against our understanding of life, it results in trauma, that is unprocessed.
Trauma often manifests as a sense of isolation or detachment from life, as if we are looking in at life, but not experiencing it personally.
We often have a fixed idea about what trauma is, with a vision of a helpless person suffering a huge incident.
Smaller episodes of emotional distress are often dismissed as irrelevant and potentially less deserving of treatment. However the long term effects can be just as damaging as very obvious trauma.
A trauma counsellor can help with both types of trauma. Some have additional qualifications to assist with specialist interventions such as EMDR, or NLP techniques that have been effective with trauma sufferers in the past.
While attending counselling for the first time can be intimidating, your counsellor has done this many times before. Generally, there is nothing you can say that would surprise them or they have not heard before. The counselling room is the one place it's safe to open up and feel heard.
We have more info on trauma counselling options on our main page here.
To arrange counselling for trauma, or find out if we might work well together, ring us direct on 0191 580 3700, or request a callback, here.
Addiction Counselling Hebburn
While coping with the busy-ness of every day life, it's easy to develop a dependence on a substance or, behaviour, without noticing.
It's easy to establish a dependence on some means to cope, in the face of unusually high stressors, or an event we weren't expecting.
Repeatedly turning to this one way to feel better, can result in addiction.
With too much substance or behaviour abuse comes rationalisation - the belief that the level of stress we're dealing with is now normal - when in fact it is not.
Behavioural addictions, or process addictions, like OCD, hoarding, eating, etc, are now just as common as classic substance addictions, like cigarettes or drugs.
Most importantly, therapy work can help identify why someone is engaging in addiction, and why they keep coming back to it. It can also assist you in developing practical means to cope with the addiction in the short term, while longer term work on the underlying causes continues.
Questions re addiction counselling? Get answers direct on 0191 580 3700.
Getting Started With Counselling
Getting To Know Each Other
Initially it's a good idea to agree upon the practical elements early on, like how often you'll meet, where, costs involved, and how long you both expect sessions to continue.
Costs of the first session can be anything from free, to £100 or more in busy areas. Check the specifics with your counsellor. Sometimes the first session is allocated a standard rate.
What do you expect from counselling? Are you looking for the shortest possible fix? Or a longer exploration of underlying issues? Set the right expectations, before you begin. Setting clear expectations like this from the ouset leaves you free to focus on the real work of counselling.
What To Ask A Counsellor Hebburn
Getting answers to well chosen queries up front will help you make the right decision about what counsellor to choose.
What action do we take if I don't get any benefit from counselling?
- Make sure you stay connected with your therapist, and share the same expectations about the practical elements, throughout. As well as keeping things moving, this helps the therapist look after you best.
When working with folks with (your issue), how many sessions of therapy does it typically take, to feel better?
- This is a how long is a piece of string question, with no real answer, except the following dependencies:
- Interrupting elements of mental health that present during treatment, and impede progress on the main issue we're attempting to tackle during therapy.
- Many more events than anticipated, are contributing toward a current day pattern, and all need resolution before the pattern dissolves or the client feels better.
- All of us move at our own speed in therapy, with the time taken to evaluate events, find better alternatives, and have appropriate insights, varying from one person to another. The only "not normal" approach would be expecting everyone to feel better at the same rate.
Therefore, please do not expect a definitive answer to this question.
In terms of timescales, you both need to allow enough time to open up, access, and feel better about painful long term memories. If the counsellor is under the impression that your sessions are a regular, long-term event, they may help you open up more painful memories or events, with the intention of greater healing possibilities. Looking at these more difficult events can take a longer time period. Where possible, try to avoid stopping counselling sessions unexpectedly, as doing so can raise the risk of attempting to deal with open or raw emotions without appropriate support.
Do you have research interests, or a specialism in one particular type of counselling?
- Perhaps your therapist has worked extensively with a focus on one type of complaint. Getting answers like these will help you develop a sense of whether you and your counsellor will work well together, before you begin.
Can I start right away?
- Therapists are usually busy people, with little spare time between sessions. Getting logistics sorted out now, will help later.
Counselling Sessions Hebburn
Our therapists work independently. Since they travel independently too, our therapists can often arrange local sessions in Hebburn, by arrangement.
Arranging Counselling Hebburn
Get an idea of costs, and availability, by ringing us direct on 0191 580 3700.
Our counsellors adhere to the BACP code of ethics and practice.
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